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She's moving into an apartment with the boyfriend
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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 465291" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>There is one more side to this "mementos" thing... that has nothing to do with addiction or anything else.</p><p></p><p>I remember a huge fight with my Mom as a teenager.</p><p>She felt I was so ungrateful for all they had done/were doing for me, all the money they spent on me, and so on.</p><p>In reality... she was trying to give me what she had wanted as a kid, the things that were important to her.</p><p>For <u>me</u>, those had absolutely NO meaning or value. Still don't.</p><p>And the things that did have value and meaning to me? Were exactly the things that she would not or could not provide.</p><p></p><p>So... for a child (of whatever age) to not put value things that are meaningful to you... may just be a difference in values.</p><p></p><p>Not caring for stuff in general, etc. - yes, part of the whole addiction thing (my bro was there). There's multiple sides going on here. Its just tough sometimes to know which pieces are difficult child stuff, and which pieces are other, more normal stuff. Because for "our" kids, it is often both.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 465291, member: 11791"] There is one more side to this "mementos" thing... that has nothing to do with addiction or anything else. I remember a huge fight with my Mom as a teenager. She felt I was so ungrateful for all they had done/were doing for me, all the money they spent on me, and so on. In reality... she was trying to give me what she had wanted as a kid, the things that were important to her. For [U]me[/U], those had absolutely NO meaning or value. Still don't. And the things that did have value and meaning to me? Were exactly the things that she would not or could not provide. So... for a child (of whatever age) to not put value things that are meaningful to you... may just be a difference in values. Not caring for stuff in general, etc. - yes, part of the whole addiction thing (my bro was there). There's multiple sides going on here. Its just tough sometimes to know which pieces are difficult child stuff, and which pieces are other, more normal stuff. Because for "our" kids, it is often both. [/QUOTE]
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