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<blockquote data-quote="katya02" data-source="post: 142248" data-attributes="member: 2884"><p>Your situation sounds so familiar ... simple problems my difficult child faced would turn into lengthy screaming fits once he had managed to involve me. It took me a long, long time to figure out that me engaging and taking any sort of responsibility for his problem whatsoever meant, in his mind, that he'd successfully unloaded both cause and responsibility for the problem onto me. Once I learned to disengage and then refuse to re-engage, the scenario changed. For a while he would follow me around the house trying to re-engage, furious that I wouldn't, and still work himself into a meltdown. Now he just gets silent and very angry, and disappears to his room. If/when he reappears to ask politely for help, I'll help him. In the meantime I revel in the quiet!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="katya02, post: 142248, member: 2884"] Your situation sounds so familiar ... simple problems my difficult child faced would turn into lengthy screaming fits once he had managed to involve me. It took me a long, long time to figure out that me engaging and taking any sort of responsibility for his problem whatsoever meant, in his mind, that he'd successfully unloaded both cause and responsibility for the problem onto me. Once I learned to disengage and then refuse to re-engage, the scenario changed. For a while he would follow me around the house trying to re-engage, furious that I wouldn't, and still work himself into a meltdown. Now he just gets silent and very angry, and disappears to his room. If/when he reappears to ask politely for help, I'll help him. In the meantime I revel in the quiet! [/QUOTE]
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