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Should I answer his calls after he's incarcerated?
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 662402" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>My son has not been arrested that I know about but I have!!</p><p></p><p>The thing is you're damned if you do and if you don't. If you do not answer the phone one time, you might agonize over it, later, as I would.</p><p></p><p>Why not script it like you think he did, and write briefly what you want to say, telling him first that that the condition of the call is that he hear you first, hanging up if he intrudes before you finish.</p><p></p><p>But before he may call think about and write down where you stand, and what your limits are. These I would not share with him. They are yours to know.</p><p></p><p>But that does not mean you do not want to tell him you love him. But I think your safety and stability has to come first. </p><p></p><p>I was arrested twice as a young woman. The first time I spent the night in jail. I cried and cried. I did call my mother who was not happy. While it was scary, I survived. If I can get through it, anybody can.</p><p></p><p>People who go to prison get by. They know they have screwed up and most accept responsibility. Especially the meth addicts, who are in time grateful.</p><p></p><p>The best thing that can happen is that he is arrested. You are the suffering one here. Let us stick together and get through this. Keep posting.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 662402, member: 18958"] My son has not been arrested that I know about but I have!! The thing is you're damned if you do and if you don't. If you do not answer the phone one time, you might agonize over it, later, as I would. Why not script it like you think he did, and write briefly what you want to say, telling him first that that the condition of the call is that he hear you first, hanging up if he intrudes before you finish. But before he may call think about and write down where you stand, and what your limits are. These I would not share with him. They are yours to know. But that does not mean you do not want to tell him you love him. But I think your safety and stability has to come first. I was arrested twice as a young woman. The first time I spent the night in jail. I cried and cried. I did call my mother who was not happy. While it was scary, I survived. If I can get through it, anybody can. People who go to prison get by. They know they have screwed up and most accept responsibility. Especially the meth addicts, who are in time grateful. The best thing that can happen is that he is arrested. You are the suffering one here. Let us stick together and get through this. Keep posting. [/QUOTE]
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