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<blockquote data-quote="A dad" data-source="post: 643351" data-attributes="member: 18668"><p>Because that did not work no amount of rules made him take school more seriously or anything for that matter his grades from the beginning to the end of his school time were average and unlike now that was actually a lot of work and stress on our part and it was not happy time. To go back at those times it will be worse for me and It will make little difference for him as it did before. I like having so much freedom with not so many responsibilities I do not want to make my life harder by going back at how things were.</p><p>Its selfish I know but that is what I think. You know what he did in his school years when I was not watching a lot of the time he took a book and stared at a single page for hours and hours and hours and hours until it was sleep time. Do you know what he will do if I do what you said, he will either wait for the working hours to finish outside the house or on a bench in the park. When I said he had patience I did not joke. And I really hate when he does that more then I hate when I see him playing video games all day. It bother me when what you do amounts to nothing but I hate it when you really do nothing. I prefer useless action then no action at all. Of course he will job search if he know I keep my eyes on him but I can not do that all the time and I do not wanna do it. He does not say no to me when I ask him to do something and I watch him but he will not take initiative on his own.</p><p>My son tested my patience enough in his growing years that sometimes I was thinking it was not worth the effort. Trust me when I say its so much easier to let him be, disappointed I am do I have to be stressed also?</p><p>I do get now why my own parents tolerated my lazy times and lack of initiative for so many years it was easier for them.</p><p>He is not a bad kid but his lack of ambition annoys me.</p><p>Do any of you wished that your child should have been a devil as a kid but a in exchange he became a responsible and respectable adult?</p><p></p><p></p><p>I did not give him any money after he dropped out of college the second time, I decided not to give him money for anything. But the internet thing its a problem because me and my wife also use it so I do not wanna cut it, also if I make him pay half of it he will have to give me 5 dollars a month and I do not know if that will wake him up.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="A dad, post: 643351, member: 18668"] Because that did not work no amount of rules made him take school more seriously or anything for that matter his grades from the beginning to the end of his school time were average and unlike now that was actually a lot of work and stress on our part and it was not happy time. To go back at those times it will be worse for me and It will make little difference for him as it did before. I like having so much freedom with not so many responsibilities I do not want to make my life harder by going back at how things were. Its selfish I know but that is what I think. You know what he did in his school years when I was not watching a lot of the time he took a book and stared at a single page for hours and hours and hours and hours until it was sleep time. Do you know what he will do if I do what you said, he will either wait for the working hours to finish outside the house or on a bench in the park. When I said he had patience I did not joke. And I really hate when he does that more then I hate when I see him playing video games all day. It bother me when what you do amounts to nothing but I hate it when you really do nothing. I prefer useless action then no action at all. Of course he will job search if he know I keep my eyes on him but I can not do that all the time and I do not wanna do it. He does not say no to me when I ask him to do something and I watch him but he will not take initiative on his own. My son tested my patience enough in his growing years that sometimes I was thinking it was not worth the effort. Trust me when I say its so much easier to let him be, disappointed I am do I have to be stressed also? I do get now why my own parents tolerated my lazy times and lack of initiative for so many years it was easier for them. He is not a bad kid but his lack of ambition annoys me. Do any of you wished that your child should have been a devil as a kid but a in exchange he became a responsible and respectable adult? I did not give him any money after he dropped out of college the second time, I decided not to give him money for anything. But the internet thing its a problem because me and my wife also use it so I do not wanna cut it, also if I make him pay half of it he will have to give me 5 dollars a month and I do not know if that will wake him up. [/QUOTE]
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