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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 567285" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Thanks, all. Yes, Ktllc, continual choices - that's a good idea. Obviously I'm not going to give up parenting J in the sense of providing for him, ensuring he stays safe (as far as I can...), scolding him when he goes over the line, etc. But what I'm saying is I'm going to step back from trying to turn him into a little French boy... or Moroccan come to that. No way any of these kids would talk to their parents like he talks to me, like I'm a big playmate, but I'm going to stop getting worked up about it... I'm going to stop trying to make him listen to me, which basically just has zero success. Certain things are not for discussion, but I'm stepping out of wars about what shoes he wears, of making him say please and thank you all the time, of worrying about the fact that he eats like a bird (and trying to force him leads to WW3), of getting all upset and worked up because he absolutely won't wear his gloves - let his hands get cold if that is his choice - and on and on. </p><p></p><p>What I consider important I will insist on - no television during the week, no sweets just before lunch, etc... but the rest? I am not going to produce a well-mannered little lord Fauntleroy and... I am going to give up the attempt. This is my declaration of independence!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 567285, member: 11227"] Thanks, all. Yes, Ktllc, continual choices - that's a good idea. Obviously I'm not going to give up parenting J in the sense of providing for him, ensuring he stays safe (as far as I can...), scolding him when he goes over the line, etc. But what I'm saying is I'm going to step back from trying to turn him into a little French boy... or Moroccan come to that. No way any of these kids would talk to their parents like he talks to me, like I'm a big playmate, but I'm going to stop getting worked up about it... I'm going to stop trying to make him listen to me, which basically just has zero success. Certain things are not for discussion, but I'm stepping out of wars about what shoes he wears, of making him say please and thank you all the time, of worrying about the fact that he eats like a bird (and trying to force him leads to WW3), of getting all upset and worked up because he absolutely won't wear his gloves - let his hands get cold if that is his choice - and on and on. What I consider important I will insist on - no television during the week, no sweets just before lunch, etc... but the rest? I am not going to produce a well-mannered little lord Fauntleroy and... I am going to give up the attempt. This is my declaration of independence!! [/QUOTE]
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