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<blockquote data-quote="ScentofCedar" data-source="post: 155412" data-attributes="member: 3353"><p>Well, when difficult child was doing well and brought an actual decent girl home to meet the parents?</p><p></p><p>I just concentrated on forming my relationship with her. I was curious about her, and I liked her, and I left anything to do with difficult child up to her and to him.</p><p></p><p>I am glad I did it that way.</p><p></p><p>When difficult child began using again, it was the girlfriend who made him come home (she came with him) to confess that the problem had never been anything but drugs.</p><p></p><p>(That is how I know so much about when and what kind.)</p><p></p><p>Then, she left him.</p><p></p><p>difficult child was so nasty to her that she will not take a call from him to this day.</p><p></p><p>And I don't blame her.</p><p></p><p>In fact, difficult child told me he called her up one day out of the blue not so long ago to ask whether she still hated him?</p><p></p><p>And she said "YES!" and hung up.</p><p></p><p>Heh.</p><p></p><p>If we weren't so leery of the whole dependency thing, husband and I would have sent HER money!</p><p></p><p>She was great.</p><p></p><p>But to get back to your current decision ~ I still say keep out of anything to do with their private lives. She knows already exactly what his situation is.</p><p></p><p>Probably, with a clearer understanding than the one you have.</p><p></p><p>Cherish her, enjoy her as the daughter she may someday become to you, and let them work out the parameters of their relationship on their own.</p><p></p><p>That's what I say, anyway.</p><p></p><p>Barbara</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ScentofCedar, post: 155412, member: 3353"] Well, when difficult child was doing well and brought an actual decent girl home to meet the parents? I just concentrated on forming my relationship with her. I was curious about her, and I liked her, and I left anything to do with difficult child up to her and to him. I am glad I did it that way. When difficult child began using again, it was the girlfriend who made him come home (she came with him) to confess that the problem had never been anything but drugs. (That is how I know so much about when and what kind.) Then, she left him. difficult child was so nasty to her that she will not take a call from him to this day. And I don't blame her. In fact, difficult child told me he called her up one day out of the blue not so long ago to ask whether she still hated him? And she said "YES!" and hung up. Heh. If we weren't so leery of the whole dependency thing, husband and I would have sent HER money! She was great. But to get back to your current decision ~ I still say keep out of anything to do with their private lives. She knows already exactly what his situation is. Probably, with a clearer understanding than the one you have. Cherish her, enjoy her as the daughter she may someday become to you, and let them work out the parameters of their relationship on their own. That's what I say, anyway. Barbara [/QUOTE]
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