I had lunch with difficult child on Mother's Day weekend. He and girlfriend are moving into an apartment together. His girlfriend is a sweetheart, we get along really well. A few days after signing the lease difficult child got laid off from his job. Being off medications and being a difficult child, he's turned this into the end of the world. Nothing ever goes right for him, it's all someone else's fault, yada, yada, yada. You've all heard it. I offered a few suggestions of things to help them get by until he's working, (thrift stores, county assistance, etc.) but he didn't want to hear any of it. He just wanted to feel sorry for himself. When I asked how girlfriend was handling it, he made it sound as if she had one foot out the door already, which I found hard to believe because she's totally supportive of him. I knew nothing I said would make any difference, so I said I was sorry for the problems he was having and changed the subject. I have to say that even though he was completely depressed and self absorbed he was not abusive or disrespectful to me, which is what would have happened in the past. I e-mailed girlfriend and she's fine but wishes she could help difficult child cope. I suggested his going back on medications would help a lot and she agrees. What bothers me is that I see her doing all the things I did in the past to try and help. She loves him and wants to fix everything so she completely enables his behavior the way I did. I like her very much and don't want to see her hurt. I also think she's the best thing that ever happened to difficult child. Do I somehow share my experiences with her? I don't want to be in the middle of things, but I want her to know I'm here if she needs me. What do you all think?