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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 147775" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>It's a tough call. The reality is that there is at least one counselor like that at every Residential Treatment Center (RTC). They are either burned out or just want the pay check, as small as it is. The good thing about these types is that they help our kids cope with some of the realities when they get back home -- not everyone is nurturing, some people will go out of their way to make them miserable.</p><p> </p><p>Odds are that staff is aware of this guy's attitude but it is hard to find people who can deal with kids with behavorial problems. Turnover is high. So, they might just be accepting of his behavior.</p><p> </p><p>I will say that I would not be happy if the kids couldn't confront staff about what they perceive to be unfair treatment. This just doesn't seem right to me. I know my daughter brought up some staff's treatment in group. She wasn't too happy because they usually could explain exactly why something happened and what her role in the treatment was.</p><p> </p><p>You could bring it up but I doubt anything will be done. Justin needs to know that you'll stand up for him if it is needed. Maybe the best way to handle this is ask him directly if he really needs you to step up or does he think he can cope with this or do something on his own?</p><p> </p><p>David, I know you feel he is close to being ready to come home and I think you're right. Some things to consider now are what have they taught him regarding coping skills? What are some things that Justin believes he can do to not retreat into the same old behaviors once he gets home and the structure is no longer there? It really is important that he be able to answer these. Justin needs to be very clear in his own mind that peer pressure won't get him into troulbe, that he knows how to say no, that he will think before he does something for someone or with someone.</p><p> </p><p>It really is good to hear how well he is doing. I hope he keeps up the good work. If he's typical, he may regress when it is close to the time of his coming home -- it is scary to go from a very controlled environment to freedom no matter how much you want to go home. If this happens, do remember it is only a bump in the road and doesn't mean he's not ready to come home, just scared. The important things to consider is what has he learned during his stay there, what do you honestly think he will bring home and use.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 147775, member: 3626"] It's a tough call. The reality is that there is at least one counselor like that at every Residential Treatment Center (RTC). They are either burned out or just want the pay check, as small as it is. The good thing about these types is that they help our kids cope with some of the realities when they get back home -- not everyone is nurturing, some people will go out of their way to make them miserable. Odds are that staff is aware of this guy's attitude but it is hard to find people who can deal with kids with behavorial problems. Turnover is high. So, they might just be accepting of his behavior. I will say that I would not be happy if the kids couldn't confront staff about what they perceive to be unfair treatment. This just doesn't seem right to me. I know my daughter brought up some staff's treatment in group. She wasn't too happy because they usually could explain exactly why something happened and what her role in the treatment was. You could bring it up but I doubt anything will be done. Justin needs to know that you'll stand up for him if it is needed. Maybe the best way to handle this is ask him directly if he really needs you to step up or does he think he can cope with this or do something on his own? David, I know you feel he is close to being ready to come home and I think you're right. Some things to consider now are what have they taught him regarding coping skills? What are some things that Justin believes he can do to not retreat into the same old behaviors once he gets home and the structure is no longer there? It really is important that he be able to answer these. Justin needs to be very clear in his own mind that peer pressure won't get him into troulbe, that he knows how to say no, that he will think before he does something for someone or with someone. It really is good to hear how well he is doing. I hope he keeps up the good work. If he's typical, he may regress when it is close to the time of his coming home -- it is scary to go from a very controlled environment to freedom no matter how much you want to go home. If this happens, do remember it is only a bump in the road and doesn't mean he's not ready to come home, just scared. The important things to consider is what has he learned during his stay there, what do you honestly think he will bring home and use. [/QUOTE]
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