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Should we get difficult child a car?
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<blockquote data-quote="Tiredof33" data-source="post: 590912" data-attributes="member: 13558"><p>I helped both of my children get cars to drive to work etc. My easy child turn difficult child turnback to easy child daughter always worked paid for the car, insurance etc. I did end up paying for 1 car during her difficult child stage and that was the last time I cosigned for her.</p><p></p><p>My always a difficult child son, I had the same thoughts you did, it would help him to get more confidence in himself, help him to work, etc. NEVER DID!!!! It was always a hugh pain in the butt with him, and as was mentioned, I worried that he would be driving drunk or stoned and hurt an innocent person.</p><p></p><p>This is the same difficult child that I would not sign to get his drivers license either for the same reasons. I had actually thought, since he was 18, that he would begin to mature.</p><p></p><p>The last straw as when he had a flat tire at the fast food he worked at and he left it there for weeks. It was towed and they wanted $$$ to get it back. Furious, I said no.</p><p></p><p>I have learned from experience, if you can't afford to make the payments (even for a young easy child) and you don't mind making the payments, don't cosign. Young adults (even some pcs) seem to think they don't have to pay parents back.</p><p></p><p>My difficult child son has asked me so many times to cosign things for him over the years and in each case something happened, never his fault of course, that I would have paid all of the loans myself. Even after years of me saying no, he still tries!! </p><p></p><p>On a funny note: my difficult child son that has 3 felonies on his record was sent to court ordered rehab twice has 'safe driver' on his license. How in the world I don't know lol!!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tiredof33, post: 590912, member: 13558"] I helped both of my children get cars to drive to work etc. My easy child turn difficult child turnback to easy child daughter always worked paid for the car, insurance etc. I did end up paying for 1 car during her difficult child stage and that was the last time I cosigned for her. My always a difficult child son, I had the same thoughts you did, it would help him to get more confidence in himself, help him to work, etc. NEVER DID!!!! It was always a hugh pain in the butt with him, and as was mentioned, I worried that he would be driving drunk or stoned and hurt an innocent person. This is the same difficult child that I would not sign to get his drivers license either for the same reasons. I had actually thought, since he was 18, that he would begin to mature. The last straw as when he had a flat tire at the fast food he worked at and he left it there for weeks. It was towed and they wanted $$$ to get it back. Furious, I said no. I have learned from experience, if you can't afford to make the payments (even for a young easy child) and you don't mind making the payments, don't cosign. Young adults (even some pcs) seem to think they don't have to pay parents back. My difficult child son has asked me so many times to cosign things for him over the years and in each case something happened, never his fault of course, that I would have paid all of the loans myself. Even after years of me saying no, he still tries!! On a funny note: my difficult child son that has 3 felonies on his record was sent to court ordered rehab twice has 'safe driver' on his license. How in the world I don't know lol!!!! [/QUOTE]
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