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Should we get difficult child a car?
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<blockquote data-quote="welcometowitsend" data-source="post: 591023" data-attributes="member: 14356"><p>Apple - Here's my 2 cents. </p><p></p><p>We took difficult child to get his learner's permit when he turned 16 and started teaching him to drive. We were set to get him driver training lessons but his behaviour didn't warrant that so we put it on hold. difficult child knew he had a car (an older Toyota Corolla) just waiting for him when he got his drivers license. We were going to put the car in his name and help him pay for insurance. We have never even gotten close to that. His behaviour still doesn't even warrant us paying for driver training lessons so he's never going to pass his license test. The actual license test is already paid for at the motor vehicle office but...... </p><p></p><p>We are now going to sell that car. </p><p></p><p>easy child will have a car waiting for her when she gets old enough to drive (another 3 years). If her behaviour warrants it. IE. She must have a part time job, she must be respectful to husband and I, she must go to school and put in her best effort to get good grades, she must participate in our family (help around the house a bit, enjoy family dinners together). She will get my Toyota Prius and it will be put in her name. We will help with insurance but she will have to pay for her own gas - you drive, you pay. If she has an accident it'll be on her insurance record, not mine. I don't want any liability for her actions. Even easy child's make mistakes.</p><p></p><p>There are some big red flags with your difficult child. </p><p>1. He has already shown he has been irresponsible with a vehicle in the past.</p><p>2. He has no respect for you or your husband. </p><p>3. His own mother won't let him drive her vehicle, nor will she let 17yr old drive her vehicle. I'd be asking myself why. </p><p></p><p>If I was going to do anything to help difficult child out it would be to buy him a bicycle. He can ride it to work and back every day, save his own busfare and put that towards a vehicle. If he held down the job, was respectful to you and husband and saved his bus fare and any other spare money he had then I would help him buy a vehicle. </p><p></p><p>As for difficult child 17 - I'd help him with a vehicle if he could show me he was doing well in school, was respectful and was holding down a part time job as well. And the car would be in his name.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="welcometowitsend, post: 591023, member: 14356"] Apple - Here's my 2 cents. We took difficult child to get his learner's permit when he turned 16 and started teaching him to drive. We were set to get him driver training lessons but his behaviour didn't warrant that so we put it on hold. difficult child knew he had a car (an older Toyota Corolla) just waiting for him when he got his drivers license. We were going to put the car in his name and help him pay for insurance. We have never even gotten close to that. His behaviour still doesn't even warrant us paying for driver training lessons so he's never going to pass his license test. The actual license test is already paid for at the motor vehicle office but...... We are now going to sell that car. easy child will have a car waiting for her when she gets old enough to drive (another 3 years). If her behaviour warrants it. IE. She must have a part time job, she must be respectful to husband and I, she must go to school and put in her best effort to get good grades, she must participate in our family (help around the house a bit, enjoy family dinners together). She will get my Toyota Prius and it will be put in her name. We will help with insurance but she will have to pay for her own gas - you drive, you pay. If she has an accident it'll be on her insurance record, not mine. I don't want any liability for her actions. Even easy child's make mistakes. There are some big red flags with your difficult child. 1. He has already shown he has been irresponsible with a vehicle in the past. 2. He has no respect for you or your husband. 3. His own mother won't let him drive her vehicle, nor will she let 17yr old drive her vehicle. I'd be asking myself why. If I was going to do anything to help difficult child out it would be to buy him a bicycle. He can ride it to work and back every day, save his own busfare and put that towards a vehicle. If he held down the job, was respectful to you and husband and saved his bus fare and any other spare money he had then I would help him buy a vehicle. As for difficult child 17 - I'd help him with a vehicle if he could show me he was doing well in school, was respectful and was holding down a part time job as well. And the car would be in his name. [/QUOTE]
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