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<blockquote data-quote="MMouse" data-source="post: 175239" data-attributes="member: 5588"><p>Thank you everyone. The children in question are 14 and 13, but from what we've figured out, they had a 'moment' when they were younger....maybe 8/9 that they did a 'show me yours and I'll show you mine' sort of thing. My son says that he stopped it, and prayed to God for forgiveness, my daughter was just worried about getting spanked for it...HUH? I told her this goes well past the spanking offense....that grounding and spanking was not even entering the picture and that it would take years of therapy to get past this.</p><p> </p><p>I can't imagine anyone that would have molested either one of them, but I know that my son was caught looking up Porn with his cousin, who we found out had absolutely no boundaries/limits set on his personal computer <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> </p><p> </p><p>We've been very open with them about having the 'birds and bees' talk, as well as teaching them that sex and other sexually related touching...etc was designed to be between two loving adults, not between family members or children and adults....etc. We even spoke to them about things that our adopted children might have been subject to, so they'd know what to watch for, if the adopted children were to say things or do things that were inappropriate (although they are much younger than my bio children).</p><p> </p><p>Again, I'm just shocked and the picture of the whole situation just keeps playing out in my head over and over and over. We were supposed to have friends come over this weekend and stay the night....how can I ever trust my children again <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" />, I've had to cancel the sleepover and any other gatherings where I won't have 24/7 supervision of them. </p><p> </p><p>Oh and on a safe plan, CPS told me that they were there to help me if needed but they didn't even come out. Said that since we'd reported it and we were seeking help that they knew we had it covered and again, that they were there to help if we needed them.</p><p> </p><p>We do have door alarms though, we purchased those when we adopted our other children. I made the mistake of thinking that the older children were okay to play in their rooms...etc though during the day, because of their age. They told the detective that they did these things when I was cooking supper or doing laundry....etc. So now it's everyone in the family room with me during the day, and I guess if I go to check the mail or do laundry they all have to follow me like little ducklings as well <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p><p> </p><p>I can't trust them to babysit, sit quietly while I use the restroom or take a calming bath....or anything!!!! And they don't even realize the extent of what they've done, this will effect us all FOREVER.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="MMouse, post: 175239, member: 5588"] Thank you everyone. The children in question are 14 and 13, but from what we've figured out, they had a 'moment' when they were younger....maybe 8/9 that they did a 'show me yours and I'll show you mine' sort of thing. My son says that he stopped it, and prayed to God for forgiveness, my daughter was just worried about getting spanked for it...HUH? I told her this goes well past the spanking offense....that grounding and spanking was not even entering the picture and that it would take years of therapy to get past this. I can't imagine anyone that would have molested either one of them, but I know that my son was caught looking up Porn with his cousin, who we found out had absolutely no boundaries/limits set on his personal computer :( We've been very open with them about having the 'birds and bees' talk, as well as teaching them that sex and other sexually related touching...etc was designed to be between two loving adults, not between family members or children and adults....etc. We even spoke to them about things that our adopted children might have been subject to, so they'd know what to watch for, if the adopted children were to say things or do things that were inappropriate (although they are much younger than my bio children). Again, I'm just shocked and the picture of the whole situation just keeps playing out in my head over and over and over. We were supposed to have friends come over this weekend and stay the night....how can I ever trust my children again :(, I've had to cancel the sleepover and any other gatherings where I won't have 24/7 supervision of them. Oh and on a safe plan, CPS told me that they were there to help me if needed but they didn't even come out. Said that since we'd reported it and we were seeking help that they knew we had it covered and again, that they were there to help if we needed them. We do have door alarms though, we purchased those when we adopted our other children. I made the mistake of thinking that the older children were okay to play in their rooms...etc though during the day, because of their age. They told the detective that they did these things when I was cooking supper or doing laundry....etc. So now it's everyone in the family room with me during the day, and I guess if I go to check the mail or do laundry they all have to follow me like little ducklings as well :( I can't trust them to babysit, sit quietly while I use the restroom or take a calming bath....or anything!!!! And they don't even realize the extent of what they've done, this will effect us all FOREVER. [/QUOTE]
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