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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 175270" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>We adopted a child who viciously molested my two younger kids for three years before we found out (and, since we'd adopted him at 11 and he was so dangerous, we asked for removal). </p><p>This experience lead to the state fortunately offering free counseling for the younger two children. They also saw a pediatrician who only sees kids who have been sexually abused. She was wonderful with my two kids, but sadly found out by checking that there had been some penetration with daughter...it is not something that kids volunteer. It's up to you, but you may want to make sure it didn't happen.</p><p></p><p> My guess is that because your kids are so close in age CPS is not pursuing it, which in my opinion is wrong. Our adopted son was tried and found guilty of sexual assault of a minor. They took it far indeed--we didn't ask for them to do this, but they did it. Anyway, it is not uncommon for girls to be molested. One in four will be and it is usually by a family member. Boys who molest usually have been molested. You saw how it can happen right under your nose (it did with us too) and how kids don't always tell (even if you've had THAT talk about how they SHOULD tell)...but most of the molesters have been molested. </p><p></p><p>My adopted son did not remember being molested, but obviously it had happened. The degree of the molestation was worse than we had known initially. The kids didn't really talk about it until he was gone. First it was "he did it three times." Then it slowly came out that it had started when he wasn't even a family member yet, but was just visiting. And because he threatened to kill us all, the younger kids were too afraid to tell us. I would want to make darn sure that neither child was molested outside of home--maybe in school, maybe in an activity, maybe by another relative...sadly, you just never know.</p><p>(((Hugs))) Good luck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 175270, member: 1550"] We adopted a child who viciously molested my two younger kids for three years before we found out (and, since we'd adopted him at 11 and he was so dangerous, we asked for removal). This experience lead to the state fortunately offering free counseling for the younger two children. They also saw a pediatrician who only sees kids who have been sexually abused. She was wonderful with my two kids, but sadly found out by checking that there had been some penetration with daughter...it is not something that kids volunteer. It's up to you, but you may want to make sure it didn't happen. My guess is that because your kids are so close in age CPS is not pursuing it, which in my opinion is wrong. Our adopted son was tried and found guilty of sexual assault of a minor. They took it far indeed--we didn't ask for them to do this, but they did it. Anyway, it is not uncommon for girls to be molested. One in four will be and it is usually by a family member. Boys who molest usually have been molested. You saw how it can happen right under your nose (it did with us too) and how kids don't always tell (even if you've had THAT talk about how they SHOULD tell)...but most of the molesters have been molested. My adopted son did not remember being molested, but obviously it had happened. The degree of the molestation was worse than we had known initially. The kids didn't really talk about it until he was gone. First it was "he did it three times." Then it slowly came out that it had started when he wasn't even a family member yet, but was just visiting. And because he threatened to kill us all, the younger kids were too afraid to tell us. I would want to make darn sure that neither child was molested outside of home--maybe in school, maybe in an activity, maybe by another relative...sadly, you just never know. (((Hugs))) Good luck. [/QUOTE]
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