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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 175421" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Hang in there, MMouse. And I seriously suggest you and husband get yourself some therapy through this, to help you both cope as well. You need to be able to talk to each other (about all sorts of things, not just the difficult issues) and the sooner you get yourselves some therapy, the quicker you can get through it all.</p><p></p><p>Although you are deeply immersed in your faith and your church, I would suggest you find a therapist from outside this. A number of reasons - I think you might feel a bit more secure with someone who is not form the same circle. And it would also be easier for the therapist, if it's not someone you deal with in other areas of your life as well. If you need to get angry with a therapist, for example, it's easier to express it to someone who you don't have to face the next Sunday over a church pot-luck supper.</p><p></p><p>I'm speaking from experience here - my PTSD (not sure if it's still in my sig) was connected to a local natural disaster which affected a lot of people in our small area. I desperately needed therapy and at first I asked among friends at church who were also therapists. A group of these people actually did band together and provided therapy for the whole community. But the bloke who helped the most was someone who lived outside our community and our church. With the others - one felt overwhelmed with my burdens because although she was willing to help, because she knew me personally she found the weight of my problems too hard to put down at the end of the session. And another therapist was worse than no help - she told me to go pray about it. I mean, prayer is great but surely she would have realised I had already tried it? And a lot more? I still see this person around, but we are no longer close friends, because I felt she was just too out of touch not only with what I needed from her as a therapist, but also with what I needed from her as a friend.</p><p>I realise now that she was actually protecting herself from the emotional burden of a friend's problems, but she should have just said, "I can't cope, see someone else," instead of making me feel like my problems were insignificant.</p><p></p><p>So go find someone you can see, to help you deal with this so you can get some sleep. You need your sleep and your strength, to help you work through this.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 175421, member: 1991"] Hang in there, MMouse. And I seriously suggest you and husband get yourself some therapy through this, to help you both cope as well. You need to be able to talk to each other (about all sorts of things, not just the difficult issues) and the sooner you get yourselves some therapy, the quicker you can get through it all. Although you are deeply immersed in your faith and your church, I would suggest you find a therapist from outside this. A number of reasons - I think you might feel a bit more secure with someone who is not form the same circle. And it would also be easier for the therapist, if it's not someone you deal with in other areas of your life as well. If you need to get angry with a therapist, for example, it's easier to express it to someone who you don't have to face the next Sunday over a church pot-luck supper. I'm speaking from experience here - my PTSD (not sure if it's still in my sig) was connected to a local natural disaster which affected a lot of people in our small area. I desperately needed therapy and at first I asked among friends at church who were also therapists. A group of these people actually did band together and provided therapy for the whole community. But the bloke who helped the most was someone who lived outside our community and our church. With the others - one felt overwhelmed with my burdens because although she was willing to help, because she knew me personally she found the weight of my problems too hard to put down at the end of the session. And another therapist was worse than no help - she told me to go pray about it. I mean, prayer is great but surely she would have realised I had already tried it? And a lot more? I still see this person around, but we are no longer close friends, because I felt she was just too out of touch not only with what I needed from her as a therapist, but also with what I needed from her as a friend. I realise now that she was actually protecting herself from the emotional burden of a friend's problems, but she should have just said, "I can't cope, see someone else," instead of making me feel like my problems were insignificant. So go find someone you can see, to help you deal with this so you can get some sleep. You need your sleep and your strength, to help you work through this. Marg [/QUOTE]
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