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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 355816" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I'm sorry. I know how frustrating it is when your sleeping medications are just starting to work and then you get dragged fully awake and then cannot get to sleep and cannot take more medications. Grrrrr....</p><p></p><p>WHY did she cut the medications out? What does she want to happen, more misery and angst and ???? Are the medications making her feel strange? </p><p></p><p>I am glad you refused to listen to her angst. I think that is a good way to handle it right now. What are you prepared to take away if she refuses to take her medications? To give if she takes them?</p><p></p><p>Part of it should be NO sympathy or middle of the night help for her angst and anxiety. It seems harsh, but she knows how to help. Refusing to help yourself is just not OK when the problem interferes in your life the way her anxiety does. </p><p></p><p>As for the "supportive parent" garbage, ignore it. You ARE being supportive when you insist she take her medications. I would listen to see if the medications cause side effects, but other than that case, she needs to take her medications. This is one game I think you really NEED to fight her on. Without the medications she is incapable of having a decent life. You know the medications help in a way that nothing else can.</p><p></p><p>One thing you might explain is that the anxiety is the result of a physical problem. NOTHING will help unless that physical problem is treated. She has the wrong amounts of chemicals in her brain. The medications make the chemicals in the brain be at the right level of effectiveness. She still needs therapy to deal with the "stinkin' thinkin'" that so many years of anxiety have created, but with-o the medications the therapy is useless. If she was short she wouldn't expect to get something from a top shelf with-o a stool or something to climb on, would she? The medications are her brain's stepstool. </p><p></p><p>Maybe an explanation like that will help. </p><p></p><p>Whatever you do, being a supportive parent means fighting for what your kid needs. Even if it is your kid you have to fight. Regardless of whatever your difficult child says.</p><p></p><p>Many gentle hugs. Does she see the therapist soon?</p><p></p><p>I just thought of this. What would she say if she saw video of herself going through all the angst/anxiety and of herself on medications? Is there a visible difference that might help her SEE the need for the medications? Showing her yelling and crying and being unable to cope vs her laughing and getting along with others ? Would it be an eyeopener?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 355816, member: 1233"] I'm sorry. I know how frustrating it is when your sleeping medications are just starting to work and then you get dragged fully awake and then cannot get to sleep and cannot take more medications. Grrrrr.... WHY did she cut the medications out? What does she want to happen, more misery and angst and ???? Are the medications making her feel strange? I am glad you refused to listen to her angst. I think that is a good way to handle it right now. What are you prepared to take away if she refuses to take her medications? To give if she takes them? Part of it should be NO sympathy or middle of the night help for her angst and anxiety. It seems harsh, but she knows how to help. Refusing to help yourself is just not OK when the problem interferes in your life the way her anxiety does. As for the "supportive parent" garbage, ignore it. You ARE being supportive when you insist she take her medications. I would listen to see if the medications cause side effects, but other than that case, she needs to take her medications. This is one game I think you really NEED to fight her on. Without the medications she is incapable of having a decent life. You know the medications help in a way that nothing else can. One thing you might explain is that the anxiety is the result of a physical problem. NOTHING will help unless that physical problem is treated. She has the wrong amounts of chemicals in her brain. The medications make the chemicals in the brain be at the right level of effectiveness. She still needs therapy to deal with the "stinkin' thinkin'" that so many years of anxiety have created, but with-o the medications the therapy is useless. If she was short she wouldn't expect to get something from a top shelf with-o a stool or something to climb on, would she? The medications are her brain's stepstool. Maybe an explanation like that will help. Whatever you do, being a supportive parent means fighting for what your kid needs. Even if it is your kid you have to fight. Regardless of whatever your difficult child says. Many gentle hugs. Does she see the therapist soon? I just thought of this. What would she say if she saw video of herself going through all the angst/anxiety and of herself on medications? Is there a visible difference that might help her SEE the need for the medications? Showing her yelling and crying and being unable to cope vs her laughing and getting along with others ? Would it be an eyeopener? [/QUOTE]
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