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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 112405" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>Sorry to hear that both are pulling you into emotional exhaustion. </p><p>Daughter is definitely a magnified teen horror show which all teens seem to go through at one time or another. Yuck. </p><p>Hugs to both of you. It's tough work being so miserable. She could make her own life a little more tolerable if she could identify what she was feeling and why.</p><p>As far as hating her home and family. I offered difficult child the opportunity to look for a family that treated him better, loved him more or could do more of what he needed. I would be willing to let him find his happiness. He never took me up on that offer. What I was thinking was "offer him what he seems to want". They are then forced to look at themselves. The ball is in her court. </p><p>difficult child and easy child are different and can not be parented the same. Cries of unfairness is common. I had to remind easy child that he has abilities and a future that difficult child could only dream about. To those that are given much, much is expected. in my humble opinion. At some point easy child's will deal with having a difficult child sibling. They can develop character or they can whine about being a victim. She is young and still early on her journey of personal development. I think her behavior to such a difficult difficult child is to be expected. How to deal with it in a productive positive way is really the challenge for you and husband. </p><p>Don't be the victim to her verbal abuse as well as difficult child's. </p><p>At some point, enough is enough. They will heap on you until you stop them. If they can not be civil when a family gathering is planned, difficult child should be uninvited. </p><p>He can join in an appropriate way or he can stay put in his room. </p><p>Everyone tiptoeing around isn't a life. He can not be the pivot by which the whole family revolves. You and husband must be the pivot. </p><p>Also, in my humble opinion. It may relieve easy child of some of her jealousy, frustration and anger. Not all of it as she is a teen but some of her anger at difficult child is well justified. Just not to be lived with every day. </p><p></p><p>Hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 112405, member: 3"] Sorry to hear that both are pulling you into emotional exhaustion. Daughter is definitely a magnified teen horror show which all teens seem to go through at one time or another. Yuck. Hugs to both of you. It's tough work being so miserable. She could make her own life a little more tolerable if she could identify what she was feeling and why. As far as hating her home and family. I offered difficult child the opportunity to look for a family that treated him better, loved him more or could do more of what he needed. I would be willing to let him find his happiness. He never took me up on that offer. What I was thinking was "offer him what he seems to want". They are then forced to look at themselves. The ball is in her court. difficult child and easy child are different and can not be parented the same. Cries of unfairness is common. I had to remind easy child that he has abilities and a future that difficult child could only dream about. To those that are given much, much is expected. in my humble opinion. At some point easy child's will deal with having a difficult child sibling. They can develop character or they can whine about being a victim. She is young and still early on her journey of personal development. I think her behavior to such a difficult difficult child is to be expected. How to deal with it in a productive positive way is really the challenge for you and husband. Don't be the victim to her verbal abuse as well as difficult child's. At some point, enough is enough. They will heap on you until you stop them. If they can not be civil when a family gathering is planned, difficult child should be uninvited. He can join in an appropriate way or he can stay put in his room. Everyone tiptoeing around isn't a life. He can not be the pivot by which the whole family revolves. You and husband must be the pivot. Also, in my humble opinion. It may relieve easy child of some of her jealousy, frustration and anger. Not all of it as she is a teen but some of her anger at difficult child is well justified. Just not to be lived with every day. Hugs. [/QUOTE]
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