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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 294262" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>I don't think it's a silly question. If you offer - you are in essence giving me your word that you will do something for me, you've committed and in my mind - problem solved. I've mentally crossed it off my list, given it an approximate due date and expect a reply. </p><p> </p><p>When a response isn't seen? I guess you could say I'm unforgiving. I'll call, I'll ask for the response you promised me - your word...and if you tell me you forgot, it slipped your mind - to me you are saying that you listened to what I said, butted in to solve my problem, and are now telling me I wasn't that important. It makes me feel unimportant. </p><p> </p><p>In this instance she volunteered - whatever the excuse was - she dropped the ball and owes you an apology. </p><p> </p><p>Had you GONE to her and said "I need a favor." Then she forgot? Different story. That is an imposition on YOUR part. Maybe you didn't ask what she had on her plate and she was too busy, but didn't want to say no - and truly did forget. In that case I would NOT be upset and would not feel unimportant. I would feel ashamed for not asking my friend if I had been a better friend and asked if she was really too busy to help me at that time. </p><p> </p><p>So, at this point I think you 'could" go to her and ask her if you could speak to her - if you consider her friendship valuable and keepable and tell her that you do consider her a good friend and tell her how she made you feel. For you to post about it- I think you are hurt. If she's not a good friend and you don't plan on seeing her again - consider yourself lucky that this was a minor infraction and the next time she butts in to solve your problems just politely say "Oh not necessary I have it handled, but thank you for the offer." <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p><p> </p><p>Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 294262, member: 4964"] I don't think it's a silly question. If you offer - you are in essence giving me your word that you will do something for me, you've committed and in my mind - problem solved. I've mentally crossed it off my list, given it an approximate due date and expect a reply. When a response isn't seen? I guess you could say I'm unforgiving. I'll call, I'll ask for the response you promised me - your word...and if you tell me you forgot, it slipped your mind - to me you are saying that you listened to what I said, butted in to solve my problem, and are now telling me I wasn't that important. It makes me feel unimportant. In this instance she volunteered - whatever the excuse was - she dropped the ball and owes you an apology. Had you GONE to her and said "I need a favor." Then she forgot? Different story. That is an imposition on YOUR part. Maybe you didn't ask what she had on her plate and she was too busy, but didn't want to say no - and truly did forget. In that case I would NOT be upset and would not feel unimportant. I would feel ashamed for not asking my friend if I had been a better friend and asked if she was really too busy to help me at that time. So, at this point I think you 'could" go to her and ask her if you could speak to her - if you consider her friendship valuable and keepable and tell her that you do consider her a good friend and tell her how she made you feel. For you to post about it- I think you are hurt. If she's not a good friend and you don't plan on seeing her again - consider yourself lucky that this was a minor infraction and the next time she butts in to solve your problems just politely say "Oh not necessary I have it handled, but thank you for the offer." :winking: Hugs [/QUOTE]
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