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Since I'm on here today...Grieving process..?
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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 102384" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Despite having lost your Dad earlier in the year - there is a lot going on under the surface that we choose to 'quelch' if you will when it comes to being emotional about loss. </p><p></p><p>We certainly wouldn't want anyone to think we "were not" done grieving about our lost parent, so we turn our head, hide our tears, put sunglasses on, look the other way - AND hope to heavens no one sees that we are hurting. It might evoke a hug that we really don't want, or it may have someone think we're weak. </p><p></p><p>Truth is - I still cry when I hear a certain song my dad used to hum. It conjures up pictures in my motion picture theater of a head and I see him dancing, goofing off, singing off key and I'm right there - right here WITH him. If even for a brief moment we are together in my mind and it's wonderful. Then the moment hits me and I realize it's just in my head, and it makes me sad. Incredibly sad sometimes - I lost my dad, I can't get him back. What's NOT to be sad about there? </p><p></p><p>With your friend I would say that having to see him, hear his story is something you can relate to and while you are relating - the movie projector in YOUR head really sees YOUR Dad, YOUR times with him and now your times without him. </p><p></p><p>Is it a part of grieving? Yes. It's okay and it's healthy. Crying is like our steam valve on the kettle of life. You've come a long way from earlier this year. I lost my dad suddenly too, and it made me angry. So many things have happened in 8 years. I swear it was like he KNEW I was away from abusive x and it was okay to go. </p><p></p><p>Hugs and kleenex for your day. Don't worry about the DeJaVu feelings - they'll come and go for life. If you see a woman in tears in the grocery store because she heard THe lion sleeps tonight - it's me. Just give me a hug. haha. </p><p></p><p>STar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 102384, member: 4964"] Despite having lost your Dad earlier in the year - there is a lot going on under the surface that we choose to 'quelch' if you will when it comes to being emotional about loss. We certainly wouldn't want anyone to think we "were not" done grieving about our lost parent, so we turn our head, hide our tears, put sunglasses on, look the other way - AND hope to heavens no one sees that we are hurting. It might evoke a hug that we really don't want, or it may have someone think we're weak. Truth is - I still cry when I hear a certain song my dad used to hum. It conjures up pictures in my motion picture theater of a head and I see him dancing, goofing off, singing off key and I'm right there - right here WITH him. If even for a brief moment we are together in my mind and it's wonderful. Then the moment hits me and I realize it's just in my head, and it makes me sad. Incredibly sad sometimes - I lost my dad, I can't get him back. What's NOT to be sad about there? With your friend I would say that having to see him, hear his story is something you can relate to and while you are relating - the movie projector in YOUR head really sees YOUR Dad, YOUR times with him and now your times without him. Is it a part of grieving? Yes. It's okay and it's healthy. Crying is like our steam valve on the kettle of life. You've come a long way from earlier this year. I lost my dad suddenly too, and it made me angry. So many things have happened in 8 years. I swear it was like he KNEW I was away from abusive x and it was okay to go. Hugs and kleenex for your day. Don't worry about the DeJaVu feelings - they'll come and go for life. If you see a woman in tears in the grocery store because she heard THe lion sleeps tonight - it's me. Just give me a hug. haha. STar [/QUOTE]
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