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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 194432" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>For now, you have a legal responsibility to manage your mother's funds and personal property. You have the financial POA. If your PA sister squanders it, you are legally responsible since you have the fiduciary responsibility. So, you better make sure all funds are being spent appropriately unless you want to ultimately charge your sister with theft.</p><p> </p><p>Today, elder abuse is a big deal in most communities and using parental funds for personal use does fall under elder abuse. You might want to remind your sister of this and explain that's why you need receipts, etc. The one good thing is that you could make the email sound like you're trying protect your sister as well as your mother and that might prevent at least one fight.</p><p> </p><p>You might be able to get your brother and sisters on board by reminding them of the fact they have a legal and moral responsibility to see that your mother is protected and that is not happening at this time. Yes, sending a check is easy but if there is an awareness that funds are not being spent appropriately, that your mother is being bruised, that her caretaker may not have the necessary skills to take care of someone with dementia (depending on what stage she is at) and that your sister is an alcoholic could lead to all of you being charged should something happen to your mother while in your sister's care.</p><p> </p><p>Taking care of parents is a very slippery slope nowadays. The courts are very much more aware of how badly the elderly can be and frequently are treated. They have little sympathy for the abusers or for those who had a legal responsibility to protect them from this abuse.</p><p> </p><p>Good luck with all of this. I hope everyone gets on board to protect your mother very quickly.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 194432, member: 3626"] For now, you have a legal responsibility to manage your mother's funds and personal property. You have the financial POA. If your PA sister squanders it, you are legally responsible since you have the fiduciary responsibility. So, you better make sure all funds are being spent appropriately unless you want to ultimately charge your sister with theft. Today, elder abuse is a big deal in most communities and using parental funds for personal use does fall under elder abuse. You might want to remind your sister of this and explain that's why you need receipts, etc. The one good thing is that you could make the email sound like you're trying protect your sister as well as your mother and that might prevent at least one fight. You might be able to get your brother and sisters on board by reminding them of the fact they have a legal and moral responsibility to see that your mother is protected and that is not happening at this time. Yes, sending a check is easy but if there is an awareness that funds are not being spent appropriately, that your mother is being bruised, that her caretaker may not have the necessary skills to take care of someone with dementia (depending on what stage she is at) and that your sister is an alcoholic could lead to all of you being charged should something happen to your mother while in your sister's care. Taking care of parents is a very slippery slope nowadays. The courts are very much more aware of how badly the elderly can be and frequently are treated. They have little sympathy for the abusers or for those who had a legal responsibility to protect them from this abuse. Good luck with all of this. I hope everyone gets on board to protect your mother very quickly. [/QUOTE]
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