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<blockquote data-quote="Calamity Jane" data-source="post: 514396" data-attributes="member: 13882"><p><em><strong>there are many things I enjoy. But that is not a purpose</strong></em></p><p><em><strong></strong></em></p><p><em><strong></strong></em></p><p><em><strong></strong></em></p><p><em><strong></strong></em>You know what? Your post was beautiful, honest and very reflective. All I can say, and I hope it doesn't sound trite, but I think our sole purpose is to love one another. I'm going to expose my belief here, and I hope it won't offend, but Jesus said (actually it was a command), "Love one another as I have loved you." That's purpose. Anything else is just marketing and merchandising. When you translate that love into action you live your purpose. </p><p></p><p>I don't know how long you were married, but I'm sure it was a long, beautiful time. You have a history together. 6 months doesn't seem long enough to be beyond it - I doubt you will ever fully get over it. Right now, you're just getting THROUGH it. As my father in law said when my mother in law passed (they were married 49 yrs.), "I've lost my right arm." It's hard, because your purpose is to love your family...your family was your career in a sense. You've run the good race. </p><p></p><p>When my Dad, who lived with me and my family, died after battling cancer for 5 years, I was devastated. I had 2 young kids, and I would just cry at the drop of a hat. After he died, when I would go to Mass, I would cry so hard, I'd have to leave my husband and kids in Church and go home early because I didn't want to freak out the kids or blubber through Mass and make a spectacle of myself, so I just stopped going. Then I went to Confession, and told our pastor that I hadn't been to Mass in a while, and my reason. He said right there, "Come to the Rectory Monday morning, I need you to work in the office while your kids are in school." I thought, what in the world did I get myself into? How can I say "no" to this guy? I wanted to kick myself for going to Confession! Anyway, the job was fun, the priests had a crazy dog that kept me company, and I got my mind off things for a while. And gradually, I was able to make it through Mass without crying. It was just what the doctor ordered. You may want to volunteer when you're up to it.</p><p>If you're really feeling brave, at some point, you may want to try to visit just one place you and your husband intended to visit on vacation. It'll be a journey of courage for you, and you never know, you might actually enjoy it. What's the worst that could happen?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Calamity Jane, post: 514396, member: 13882"] [I][B]there are many things I enjoy. But that is not a purpose [/B][/I]You know what? Your post was beautiful, honest and very reflective. All I can say, and I hope it doesn't sound trite, but I think our sole purpose is to love one another. I'm going to expose my belief here, and I hope it won't offend, but Jesus said (actually it was a command), "Love one another as I have loved you." That's purpose. Anything else is just marketing and merchandising. When you translate that love into action you live your purpose. I don't know how long you were married, but I'm sure it was a long, beautiful time. You have a history together. 6 months doesn't seem long enough to be beyond it - I doubt you will ever fully get over it. Right now, you're just getting THROUGH it. As my father in law said when my mother in law passed (they were married 49 yrs.), "I've lost my right arm." It's hard, because your purpose is to love your family...your family was your career in a sense. You've run the good race. When my Dad, who lived with me and my family, died after battling cancer for 5 years, I was devastated. I had 2 young kids, and I would just cry at the drop of a hat. After he died, when I would go to Mass, I would cry so hard, I'd have to leave my husband and kids in Church and go home early because I didn't want to freak out the kids or blubber through Mass and make a spectacle of myself, so I just stopped going. Then I went to Confession, and told our pastor that I hadn't been to Mass in a while, and my reason. He said right there, "Come to the Rectory Monday morning, I need you to work in the office while your kids are in school." I thought, what in the world did I get myself into? How can I say "no" to this guy? I wanted to kick myself for going to Confession! Anyway, the job was fun, the priests had a crazy dog that kept me company, and I got my mind off things for a while. And gradually, I was able to make it through Mass without crying. It was just what the doctor ordered. You may want to volunteer when you're up to it. If you're really feeling brave, at some point, you may want to try to visit just one place you and your husband intended to visit on vacation. It'll be a journey of courage for you, and you never know, you might actually enjoy it. What's the worst that could happen? [/QUOTE]
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