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<blockquote data-quote="Albatross" data-source="post: 732572" data-attributes="member: 17720"><p>Great news, RN! Very happy to read this update.</p><p></p><p></p><p>I can understand your being upset, but there could be many reasons for his comment.</p><p>1. He's feeling very strong and confident in his sobriety because he's never made it this far before.</p><p>2. He wanted to "brag" a little to his mom and didn't really think about how his comments would be construed.</p><p>3. The visit made him homesick.</p><p>4. A visit with family kicked him into old patterns of family dynamics.</p><p>5. His motivation for staying sober really hasn't been internalized yet; he's still doing it to please others.</p><p></p><p>I think you did a great job of shutting him down, if he was attempting to find your soft spot in allowing him to back out of his program. I think he's so fortunate to have your steadfast position on expecting him to finish this. And he's still very early on in his program, so I hope as time goes on and he develops more and more of his own sober experiences, he will develop more and more independence and motivation. For now I think it sounds like he's doing great.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Albatross, post: 732572, member: 17720"] Great news, RN! Very happy to read this update. I can understand your being upset, but there could be many reasons for his comment. 1. He's feeling very strong and confident in his sobriety because he's never made it this far before. 2. He wanted to "brag" a little to his mom and didn't really think about how his comments would be construed. 3. The visit made him homesick. 4. A visit with family kicked him into old patterns of family dynamics. 5. His motivation for staying sober really hasn't been internalized yet; he's still doing it to please others. I think you did a great job of shutting him down, if he was attempting to find your soft spot in allowing him to back out of his program. I think he's so fortunate to have your steadfast position on expecting him to finish this. And he's still very early on in his program, so I hope as time goes on and he develops more and more of his own sober experiences, he will develop more and more independence and motivation. For now I think it sounds like he's doing great. [/QUOTE]
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