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<blockquote data-quote="dreamer" data-source="post: 31747" data-attributes="member: 1697"><p>my mom, my mother in law, my father in law, my best friend all died of lung cancer. I attended to the care in their final months as primary caregiver for all of them. My husband has emphysema and lung cancer, as well. As a hospice nurse I have also had several patients with lung cancer. </p><p>Growing up I did not know anyone who did not smoke. Our pediatrician even smoked, even while seeing patients. We could smoke in grocery store, in Kresges (sp), in hospital, just about anywhere. I have never gotten colds or flu, my children never had a cold, never had flu and never had a single ear infection. My 4 siblings are the same, no colds, flu or ear infections. (matetr of fact my kids have not needed any antibiotics until my son had his eye surgery and it was given for prevention) </p><p></p><p>I have no problem refraining from smoking if I invite you over for a short visit. I have no problem coming to visit at your house and not smoking. I have no problem being in your car and not smoking. I certainly have no problem not smoking if you are paying me to do something for you. </p><p>I cannot smoke at the RMH when I take my son to the eye surgeon. I have no issue with that rule. I understand entirely. </p><p>BUT.....so often I have had parents send their kids to my house to come play and then the kids tell me they cannot go home becuz guess what? they came to play so I could "unofficially" babysit and noone is home at their house and the door is locked, so now they cannot go home. </p><p>If the kids whose parents do not want them to be around smoking would discuss more with me than the fact they do not want their kids by my smoke, I might feel differently. - BUT this is MY house, I pay the bills here, I worked unusual hours so what is daytime to you is nitetime for me- </p><p>Nope, if the kids do not want their kids around my smoke, I understand BUT.........&lt;shrug&gt; their kids can play elsewhere. </p><p>I refuse to feel guilty or like a criminal, I simply accept it as ok, we just have different things going. Personally, perfume triggers migraines in me, even faint perfume. I suppose people who can smell my cig smoke clinging to my clothes feel similar around me. So at the first hint of perfume smell, I go elsewhere- away from the source. I do not complain at the people with the urine soaked carpets that smell, I just simply do not go there. I do not walk up to strangers and tell them how their perfume makes me ill. I get quite angry when I am IN a smoking area and people walk up to me and comment. I do not walk into tanning salons and remind the people that sunbathing is bad and gosh my other friend died of melanoma. I do not walk into bars or restaurants full of people drinking and tell them my HS best friend was run over and killed by a drunk driver, or my gramma and grampa and 2 aunts died of cirhosis of liver........or that becuz my uncle was drunk he shot and killed my aunt, or my dad got drunk and shot out the windows of a building full of people. </p><p>I am not breaking a law by my smoking, I observe the laws and honor them. So far it is still legal for me to smoke here. I no longer go out to eat.....so I should not be bothering anyone all that much. and I absolutely detest when our school sends the kids home telling the kids to throw away their parents cigs. </p><p>Last nite my easy child was at the ER due to a fall at work. On her discharge papers and instructions were smoking cessation information. I was livid. Smoking had NOTHING to do with her visit there...........They did not even ask her if she smokes. Me and husband smoke, her boyfriend smokes, my oldest dtr smokes (she is now 18) but easy child does NOT smoke. Ah but, hospital assumed she did. And they did not ASK her if she does, they assumed she would lie and assumed she would say no. </p><p>My rheumetologist refused to keep me as a patient and refused to treat my RA and Lupus if I did not stop smoking. </p><p></p><p>I do not have any idea what the correct answers are. I know some areas that have banned smoking are now facing shortages of funds that they had collected due to the taxes involved in cig sales. If we outlaw smoking entirely altogether here, I do not know what the tobacco farmers and the people who work in cig factories will do for work or how they will make up for all the taxes they no longer collect. I do not know what they will do with all the people suddenyly in nicotene withdrawl? </p><p>I do know some people can become seriously ill with nicotene withdrawl. I also know some studies have shown for some mentally ill people smoking DOES carry some benefits. Just as with medications- the benefits and drawbacks need to be balanced against each other.........For all the smokers I know that died of lung cancer, I can count at least 100 times as many smokers who did not die of cancer at all. </p><p></p><p>Yes, I will obey the law. I try to be courteous. I try to be reasonable. I try hard to be "correctly green" in other parts of my life, such as walking when I can instead of using the car, and recycling and reusing things, etc. BUT I refuse to feel guilty for not refraining from smoking for my kids friends to filter in and out of my house all day every day etc. </p><p>I do not ask my neighbors to alter their TV viewing or videogaming habits when my kid wants to play there, either, tho. (I am NOT a TV or videogame person AT ALL, - I have never ever played a single videogame.and I seldom watch TV except for ER) </p><p>If what someone is doing in their home bothers me, I keep my kids away from those houses. And if people do not want their kids here becuz I smoke, well, thats OK, too. I DO understand. I do not get upset.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dreamer, post: 31747, member: 1697"] my mom, my mother in law, my father in law, my best friend all died of lung cancer. I attended to the care in their final months as primary caregiver for all of them. My husband has emphysema and lung cancer, as well. As a hospice nurse I have also had several patients with lung cancer. Growing up I did not know anyone who did not smoke. Our pediatrician even smoked, even while seeing patients. We could smoke in grocery store, in Kresges (sp), in hospital, just about anywhere. I have never gotten colds or flu, my children never had a cold, never had flu and never had a single ear infection. My 4 siblings are the same, no colds, flu or ear infections. (matetr of fact my kids have not needed any antibiotics until my son had his eye surgery and it was given for prevention) I have no problem refraining from smoking if I invite you over for a short visit. I have no problem coming to visit at your house and not smoking. I have no problem being in your car and not smoking. I certainly have no problem not smoking if you are paying me to do something for you. I cannot smoke at the RMH when I take my son to the eye surgeon. I have no issue with that rule. I understand entirely. BUT.....so often I have had parents send their kids to my house to come play and then the kids tell me they cannot go home becuz guess what? they came to play so I could "unofficially" babysit and noone is home at their house and the door is locked, so now they cannot go home. If the kids whose parents do not want them to be around smoking would discuss more with me than the fact they do not want their kids by my smoke, I might feel differently. - BUT this is MY house, I pay the bills here, I worked unusual hours so what is daytime to you is nitetime for me- Nope, if the kids do not want their kids around my smoke, I understand BUT.........<shrug> their kids can play elsewhere. I refuse to feel guilty or like a criminal, I simply accept it as ok, we just have different things going. Personally, perfume triggers migraines in me, even faint perfume. I suppose people who can smell my cig smoke clinging to my clothes feel similar around me. So at the first hint of perfume smell, I go elsewhere- away from the source. I do not complain at the people with the urine soaked carpets that smell, I just simply do not go there. I do not walk up to strangers and tell them how their perfume makes me ill. I get quite angry when I am IN a smoking area and people walk up to me and comment. I do not walk into tanning salons and remind the people that sunbathing is bad and gosh my other friend died of melanoma. I do not walk into bars or restaurants full of people drinking and tell them my HS best friend was run over and killed by a drunk driver, or my gramma and grampa and 2 aunts died of cirhosis of liver........or that becuz my uncle was drunk he shot and killed my aunt, or my dad got drunk and shot out the windows of a building full of people. I am not breaking a law by my smoking, I observe the laws and honor them. So far it is still legal for me to smoke here. I no longer go out to eat.....so I should not be bothering anyone all that much. and I absolutely detest when our school sends the kids home telling the kids to throw away their parents cigs. Last nite my easy child was at the ER due to a fall at work. On her discharge papers and instructions were smoking cessation information. I was livid. Smoking had NOTHING to do with her visit there...........They did not even ask her if she smokes. Me and husband smoke, her boyfriend smokes, my oldest dtr smokes (she is now 18) but easy child does NOT smoke. Ah but, hospital assumed she did. And they did not ASK her if she does, they assumed she would lie and assumed she would say no. My rheumetologist refused to keep me as a patient and refused to treat my RA and Lupus if I did not stop smoking. I do not have any idea what the correct answers are. I know some areas that have banned smoking are now facing shortages of funds that they had collected due to the taxes involved in cig sales. If we outlaw smoking entirely altogether here, I do not know what the tobacco farmers and the people who work in cig factories will do for work or how they will make up for all the taxes they no longer collect. I do not know what they will do with all the people suddenyly in nicotene withdrawl? I do know some people can become seriously ill with nicotene withdrawl. I also know some studies have shown for some mentally ill people smoking DOES carry some benefits. Just as with medications- the benefits and drawbacks need to be balanced against each other.........For all the smokers I know that died of lung cancer, I can count at least 100 times as many smokers who did not die of cancer at all. Yes, I will obey the law. I try to be courteous. I try to be reasonable. I try hard to be "correctly green" in other parts of my life, such as walking when I can instead of using the car, and recycling and reusing things, etc. BUT I refuse to feel guilty for not refraining from smoking for my kids friends to filter in and out of my house all day every day etc. I do not ask my neighbors to alter their TV viewing or videogaming habits when my kid wants to play there, either, tho. (I am NOT a TV or videogame person AT ALL, - I have never ever played a single videogame.and I seldom watch TV except for ER) If what someone is doing in their home bothers me, I keep my kids away from those houses. And if people do not want their kids here becuz I smoke, well, thats OK, too. I DO understand. I do not get upset. [/QUOTE]
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