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<blockquote data-quote="donna723" data-source="post: 505474" data-attributes="member: 1883"><p>I think you're doing exactly the right thing and I really admire you for the way you're handling the situation. You've already done all you possibly could, she hasn't changed a bit, and all you'd be doing from here on in is beating your head against that brick wall. And this sounds like a classic case of "blame shifting" to me! My ex was a real master at that technique. She finds some little insignificant thing that <em>you've</em> supposedly done to her, then blows it completely out of proportion to shift the blame from all the outrageous things that <em>she's</em> done! Nobody ever falls for it but it allows them to save face and play the "victim" and it keeps them from ever having to take the blame. And honestly, I think she hasn't taken any action about "perv man" exposing himself because she just doesn't think that it's any big deal! He's probably been doing that for as long as she's known him and she just ignores it!</p><p></p><p>And even allowing all that, how did she ever justify missing the services for her father because she felt "persecuted"? To me, that was about as low as she could possibly go!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="donna723, post: 505474, member: 1883"] I think you're doing exactly the right thing and I really admire you for the way you're handling the situation. You've already done all you possibly could, she hasn't changed a bit, and all you'd be doing from here on in is beating your head against that brick wall. And this sounds like a classic case of "blame shifting" to me! My ex was a real master at that technique. She finds some little insignificant thing that [I]you've[/I] supposedly done to her, then blows it completely out of proportion to shift the blame from all the outrageous things that [I]she's[/I] done! Nobody ever falls for it but it allows them to save face and play the "victim" and it keeps them from ever having to take the blame. And honestly, I think she hasn't taken any action about "perv man" exposing himself because she just doesn't think that it's any big deal! He's probably been doing that for as long as she's known him and she just ignores it! And even allowing all that, how did she ever justify missing the services for her father because she felt "persecuted"? To me, that was about as low as she could possibly go! [/QUOTE]
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