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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 405330" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>JJJ, </p><p> </p><p>You know there is a comedy skit done by Sinbad right now that while tongue in cheek humor - is very real. He says that schools have GOT to STOP handing out awards to everyone. There has to be winners and loosers, and this business of giving all kids a trophy for "You TRIED HARD" is ridiculous. It makes kids think that it's okay to not work harder or it's okay to accept that you did just what you did and everyone has to accept it. </p><p> </p><p>I remember when Dude was in grade school and came home the first time with one of those awards. He threw it in the trash. I let it stay there. He told me that if he wasn't on the winning team he didn't deserve a trophy for "trying". There have to be winners and loosers, and while I think Piglet may have tried her hardest - she needs to KNOW that it's okay to loose - she just needs to acknowledge that she messed up - and move on, try harder next time. Loosing is okay - no shame in it because at LEAST SHE was out there TRYING. There are a ton of kids in her school that didn't EVEN try, DON"T go to practice,and ARE NOT even on the team. She needs to realize THAT. </p><p> </p><p>It's like being angry - it's okay to be angry - as long as you project your anger in an appropriate manner - </p><p>Loosing is no different. </p><p> </p><p>Maybe if he coach brought it up to her in this way? She'd allow herself to be okay with making mistakes instead of trying to be perfect or trying to pretend that she doesn't make mistakes and projecting the problem on something else. As in - it wasn't my fault because.......</p><p> </p><p>Make any sense? </p><p>Hugs </p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 405330, member: 4964"] JJJ, You know there is a comedy skit done by Sinbad right now that while tongue in cheek humor - is very real. He says that schools have GOT to STOP handing out awards to everyone. There has to be winners and loosers, and this business of giving all kids a trophy for "You TRIED HARD" is ridiculous. It makes kids think that it's okay to not work harder or it's okay to accept that you did just what you did and everyone has to accept it. I remember when Dude was in grade school and came home the first time with one of those awards. He threw it in the trash. I let it stay there. He told me that if he wasn't on the winning team he didn't deserve a trophy for "trying". There have to be winners and loosers, and while I think Piglet may have tried her hardest - she needs to KNOW that it's okay to loose - she just needs to acknowledge that she messed up - and move on, try harder next time. Loosing is okay - no shame in it because at LEAST SHE was out there TRYING. There are a ton of kids in her school that didn't EVEN try, DON"T go to practice,and ARE NOT even on the team. She needs to realize THAT. It's like being angry - it's okay to be angry - as long as you project your anger in an appropriate manner - Loosing is no different. Maybe if he coach brought it up to her in this way? She'd allow herself to be okay with making mistakes instead of trying to be perfect or trying to pretend that she doesn't make mistakes and projecting the problem on something else. As in - it wasn't my fault because....... Make any sense? Hugs Star [/QUOTE]
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