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<blockquote data-quote="exhausted" data-source="post: 509703" data-attributes="member: 11001"><p>Hello and welcome, You have gotten some good advice. I just wanted to mention public transit. Is it available? I know it will take longer and so on, but then again he'll have to plan and grow up a bit. No way would I drive him or let him have a car when I know he is using. I would even get rid of the car. He needs to either motivate and pass school and follow rules or you have no reason to haul him to school.</p><p></p><p>I agree with Nancy about treatment. Can you and your husband help find a place and get him there. He won't have much success without this and even with it there is no guarantee. My difficult child had spent over 2 years in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and still smokes pot. We wont help her get a licence and we don't haul her around. She uses the bus to get to work. We do pick her up on the rare occasion she works past the bus service hours. There is so little we can control when they get to this age. But we don't have to give them money, rides, cars. In this house, we have decided to be perfectly rigid about those things.</p><p></p><p>I understand the hurt and aching heart. Some things get easier, but it always hurts when we watch them do the things they do. While there are a few here that won't agree, you are right about pot. Kids can get it without a dime and it is a drug that is often shared. I heard this over and over in the Residential Treatment Center (RTC). There are a group of kids that only smoke pot (maybe the ones with no genetic addiction issue??) and they are arrogant-they believe that they are better than other users. My daughter even tells me its natural and a better choice than antidepressants! It does sound like there are other drugs in the picture for your boy however. I have recently found some peace at Families Anon. I have learned much and look forward to going.</p><p></p><p>Keep us posted and good luck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="exhausted, post: 509703, member: 11001"] Hello and welcome, You have gotten some good advice. I just wanted to mention public transit. Is it available? I know it will take longer and so on, but then again he'll have to plan and grow up a bit. No way would I drive him or let him have a car when I know he is using. I would even get rid of the car. He needs to either motivate and pass school and follow rules or you have no reason to haul him to school. I agree with Nancy about treatment. Can you and your husband help find a place and get him there. He won't have much success without this and even with it there is no guarantee. My difficult child had spent over 2 years in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and still smokes pot. We wont help her get a licence and we don't haul her around. She uses the bus to get to work. We do pick her up on the rare occasion she works past the bus service hours. There is so little we can control when they get to this age. But we don't have to give them money, rides, cars. In this house, we have decided to be perfectly rigid about those things. I understand the hurt and aching heart. Some things get easier, but it always hurts when we watch them do the things they do. While there are a few here that won't agree, you are right about pot. Kids can get it without a dime and it is a drug that is often shared. I heard this over and over in the Residential Treatment Center (RTC). There are a group of kids that only smoke pot (maybe the ones with no genetic addiction issue??) and they are arrogant-they believe that they are better than other users. My daughter even tells me its natural and a better choice than antidepressants! It does sound like there are other drugs in the picture for your boy however. I have recently found some peace at Families Anon. I have learned much and look forward to going. Keep us posted and good luck. [/QUOTE]
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