I really need some advice. I have an almost 19 year old still living at home with us. He is on his second attempt to stay in Community College in the last year. He has gone through two part time jobs in the last year too. He never took school seriously and because of that did not graduate with his class due to poor grades and attendance. We had him take the necessary credits in summer school to get his high school diploma. Started smoking pot in 9th grade. We have had many ups and downs regarding drug use and at one point, selling pot. Consequences would be taking away the car and zero funds, a curfew and having to call if he would be home past twelve. He saw a few counselors but didn't take it seriously either. I exhausted myself trying to enforce a no smoking pot rule especially in the car and if I found anything drug related it was tossed and the car privilege revoked. Eventually, I realized I couldn't control what he did outside of the house and was sick and tired of fighting with him about smelling pot in the car and him denying it. Please tell me what I can do? He is presently going to Community College but doesn't have a job. He was doing some work with my husband for a week or two but after finding out my son had been cutting some classes and lying about it, he fired him, took away the car again and told him to get a real job. Friday we drove him to school. 99% of his friends are in four year college but all do drugs and some drinking and live in other states. I know he does more than pot on occasion which scares me to death. I worry for his mental health and where his life is going. He has never been in trouble with the law for drugs but doesn't seem the harm, as most kids. We told him if he withdraws from school again, he will have three months to find a full time job and another place to live. In the meantime, how do I deal with the fact that he has done acid, mushrooms, and X especially at concerts or raves or whatever they are called? We do not give him money and when he was allowed to use the car, he had to give us receipts for gas. Do we drive him back and forth to college everyday now? What about when he has another part time job? Otherwise, his friends pick him up and drop him off when they go out and I have to worry about what condition they might be in. I have no other children and therefore, have put all my focus on my son which has driven the both of us nuts. P.S. He is on Financial Aid for school and has to keep up his credits and grades. I am already hearing the familiar signs of dissatisfaction with school and his new major.