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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 730050" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Laurie,. This sounds so off that in my opinion you could insist you get the name and number and charge person and send nothing, nada unless you feel he is really getting help. Until you have a talk with the head honcho of the place. You need to know if your son seems eager to quit or is defiant. Also what rehab let's you walk alone around the streets??? Not one that is going to have success. Smells like tuna fish all the way.</p><p></p><p>You don't have to do squat for a grown man who treats you like crap and uses drugs. How will your good deeds help him get clean and kind? He lies a lot too. He is not trustworthy or kind right now, your son or not. Many of us have had to face this very sad fact about our grown kids. They are not the same person as that adorable little boy who gave you hugs at nine years old. Forget that little boy in relation to this tall, deep voiced, hairy grown man who is changed. Maybe he will get better to you if he quits. Right now he is abusive.</p><p></p><p>in my opinion you need to have info to look up this place....for all you know he already left and just wants a phone for drug transactions. And if he is there you need the name to look up all about it on the internet and you need to talk to those in charge before even giving him one magazine. Or a dime. He MAY be there and you may find there are no trips to doctor's and he is just bold face lying to you to get a forbidden phone. And why would he want one? For nothing good. No one good. </p><p></p><p>Too many questions. No answers. If I were you, in this situation, I would do nothing until I knew all. If he doesn't want to tell you, you can in good conscience let him do whatever he is doing without you. It is his life to thrive in or destroy. You can't change anyone but yourself.</p><p></p><p>I am very sorry. It's hard when we can't trust their lips as soon as they move, but you are not alone. I went thru this to a much lesser degree but it is never fun.</p><p></p><p>Hang in there.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 730050, member: 1550"] Laurie,. This sounds so off that in my opinion you could insist you get the name and number and charge person and send nothing, nada unless you feel he is really getting help. Until you have a talk with the head honcho of the place. You need to know if your son seems eager to quit or is defiant. Also what rehab let's you walk alone around the streets??? Not one that is going to have success. Smells like tuna fish all the way. You don't have to do squat for a grown man who treats you like crap and uses drugs. How will your good deeds help him get clean and kind? He lies a lot too. He is not trustworthy or kind right now, your son or not. Many of us have had to face this very sad fact about our grown kids. They are not the same person as that adorable little boy who gave you hugs at nine years old. Forget that little boy in relation to this tall, deep voiced, hairy grown man who is changed. Maybe he will get better to you if he quits. Right now he is abusive. in my opinion you need to have info to look up this place....for all you know he already left and just wants a phone for drug transactions. And if he is there you need the name to look up all about it on the internet and you need to talk to those in charge before even giving him one magazine. Or a dime. He MAY be there and you may find there are no trips to doctor's and he is just bold face lying to you to get a forbidden phone. And why would he want one? For nothing good. No one good. Too many questions. No answers. If I were you, in this situation, I would do nothing until I knew all. If he doesn't want to tell you, you can in good conscience let him do whatever he is doing without you. It is his life to thrive in or destroy. You can't change anyone but yourself. I am very sorry. It's hard when we can't trust their lips as soon as they move, but you are not alone. I went thru this to a much lesser degree but it is never fun. Hang in there. [/QUOTE]
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