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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 132374" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Thanks ladies. </p><p> </p><p>I was thinking along the same lines. </p><p> </p><p>I'm so ticked at her for handing her money over to boyfriend it's not funny. (and have been since she did it) I did everything I could to get her to set up her own bank account. But he'd already convinced her. </p><p> </p><p>I knew the money wouldn't be there when she needed it. Fran, maybe I ought to put boyfriend's age in my sig. lol He's rapidly approaching the age of 22. Not a teen, just a good manipulator and Tightwad. Spending Nichole's money meant he didn't have to spend HIS money. And the boy makes Good money. Plus he has Nichole convinced he can't "afford" child support. (I'll stop here or it'll be another post lol)</p><p> </p><p>I can't, so far anyway, discuss boyfriend's using and manipulation as she's denying now that he had anything to do with the spending. God, I had it when she does this. Reminds me of myself at that age. I dunno if boyfriend has managed to convince her that the spending was somehow Her fault, (husband used to do this to me) or what is going on exactly. But until she admits he did it, I can't talk to her about it.</p><p> </p><p>BUT it seems easy child has taken the matter out of my hands.</p><p> </p><p>easy child told me this morning that she will cover the cost over the loan of Nichole's spring quarter. She's already told Nichole. As well, as I'm sure knowing easy child, an ear full of how she feels about boyfriend spending the money and leaving Nichole in a major lurch. easy child is so mad at Nichole's boyfriend she could spit fire.</p><p> </p><p>This surprised me. And yet it doesn't. If you know what I mean. </p><p> </p><p>easy child is as excited about all of the work Nichole has put into getting into the paramedic program as I am. She's just as proud over the "growing up" we've seen in the past several months. And she didn't want Nichole to lose the opportunity anymore than I did.</p><p> </p><p>But at least, knowing easy child, she'll wait til the last possible second to pay the school. And when she next sees the boyfriend, he'll be sure to get a piece of her mind. lol</p><p> </p><p>As for the car........</p><p> </p><p>Well, that's a Do To Get situation. If she does the rather disgusting chores I have mapped out for her......(you wouldn't believe how behind things get when you're in school fulltime) I have no problem paying the insurance and title. As long as she's Still trying hard to get a job. (and she has been) </p><p> </p><p>Too funny this morning. She tried to get me to give her the money she's earned so far.....about 60 bucks. I told her No. I'm holding it for the insurance. And if I gave it to her, she'd be tempted to spend it. She told me I was probably right and dropped it.</p><p> </p><p>Then we got into a discussion about babysitting for Aubrey. Currently she goes to daycare 5 hrs a day, 5 days a week, considered fulltime. boyfriend pays half, the state pays the other half. If Nichole works she'll need a sitter during working hours too. So she asked if I'd do it. I told her only if it was AFTER Aubrey's bedtime as I have my own classes to worry about. boyfriend can cover the other times, or if he has classes, she can spend a longer day at day care. (price is the same)</p><p> </p><p>Nichole looked a bit hurt as she has everytime this subject has come up. She doesn't like the thought of Aubrey spending all day in daycare. But I also haven't volunteered to watch her as I did with Darrin. And I won't. With easy child and sister in law, sister in law always watched Darrin when he didn't have to work. Nichole's boyfriend doesn't want to do that. PLUS the boy doesn't want to pay child support. And stopped buying most of Aubrey's daily needs months and months ago. (Nichole has to throw a fit for pull ups and diaper wipes) So, in my mind, Mr. Tightwad can pay for daycare if he doesn't want to watch his child during his off hours. Nichole is hurt because I haven't gotten her to see that the situations are different. sister in law worked 2 fulltime jobs and still watched Darrin when he was off. Mr. Tightwad works partime, goes to school parttime, and whines if Nichole needs him to watch Aubrey for a couple of hours, plus whines about having to buy the child anything while not paying support for her.</p><p> </p><p>Nichole being hurt or not, I'm sticking to my guns on the whole sitting for Aubrey thing.</p><p> </p><p>As far as our taxes............Star, the reason it wouldn't be them taking a percentage is that husband's ex racked up quite a bill with MO walfare. Believe me, if they were taking our return for payment, it would be the whole thing. (except state, they can't touch that one) That we have to pay off his ex's welfare bill when she was the one who was too lazy to work is a topic that still can make me livid. *sigh* But husband can produce no paperwork, as there is no paperwork that has been sent to us. He was trying to convince me they told him this when he'd checked on the statis of the return. (yeah, right. I stopped being gullable about 13 yrs ago bud) </p><p> </p><p>So now husband is lying (poorly) all over the place trying to cover his fanny. Truely, it would be comical if it didn't involve me. Obviously he had other plans for that whopping return. I've yet to get out of him as to "what" those plans were, be it some huge bill he hasn't been paying, or something else.</p><p> </p><p>But now I suddenly realize why I can't stand Nichole's boyfriend. He is so very like my husband it is unsettling. And Nichole's actions concerning him, with the manipulation and such, are so identical to the way I used to be with her Dad, it makes me sick. (and I pray she snaps out of it alot faster than I did)</p><p> </p><p>But the tax return thing just succeeded in reminding me why I'm going to school. Soon as I've graduated, husband is outta here. I figure he owes me my schooling after putting up with him for the past 25 yrs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 132374, member: 84"] Thanks ladies. I was thinking along the same lines. I'm so ticked at her for handing her money over to boyfriend it's not funny. (and have been since she did it) I did everything I could to get her to set up her own bank account. But he'd already convinced her. I knew the money wouldn't be there when she needed it. Fran, maybe I ought to put boyfriend's age in my sig. lol He's rapidly approaching the age of 22. Not a teen, just a good manipulator and Tightwad. Spending Nichole's money meant he didn't have to spend HIS money. And the boy makes Good money. Plus he has Nichole convinced he can't "afford" child support. (I'll stop here or it'll be another post lol) I can't, so far anyway, discuss boyfriend's using and manipulation as she's denying now that he had anything to do with the spending. God, I had it when she does this. Reminds me of myself at that age. I dunno if boyfriend has managed to convince her that the spending was somehow Her fault, (husband used to do this to me) or what is going on exactly. But until she admits he did it, I can't talk to her about it. BUT it seems easy child has taken the matter out of my hands. easy child told me this morning that she will cover the cost over the loan of Nichole's spring quarter. She's already told Nichole. As well, as I'm sure knowing easy child, an ear full of how she feels about boyfriend spending the money and leaving Nichole in a major lurch. easy child is so mad at Nichole's boyfriend she could spit fire. This surprised me. And yet it doesn't. If you know what I mean. easy child is as excited about all of the work Nichole has put into getting into the paramedic program as I am. She's just as proud over the "growing up" we've seen in the past several months. And she didn't want Nichole to lose the opportunity anymore than I did. But at least, knowing easy child, she'll wait til the last possible second to pay the school. And when she next sees the boyfriend, he'll be sure to get a piece of her mind. lol As for the car........ Well, that's a Do To Get situation. If she does the rather disgusting chores I have mapped out for her......(you wouldn't believe how behind things get when you're in school fulltime) I have no problem paying the insurance and title. As long as she's Still trying hard to get a job. (and she has been) Too funny this morning. She tried to get me to give her the money she's earned so far.....about 60 bucks. I told her No. I'm holding it for the insurance. And if I gave it to her, she'd be tempted to spend it. She told me I was probably right and dropped it. Then we got into a discussion about babysitting for Aubrey. Currently she goes to daycare 5 hrs a day, 5 days a week, considered fulltime. boyfriend pays half, the state pays the other half. If Nichole works she'll need a sitter during working hours too. So she asked if I'd do it. I told her only if it was AFTER Aubrey's bedtime as I have my own classes to worry about. boyfriend can cover the other times, or if he has classes, she can spend a longer day at day care. (price is the same) Nichole looked a bit hurt as she has everytime this subject has come up. She doesn't like the thought of Aubrey spending all day in daycare. But I also haven't volunteered to watch her as I did with Darrin. And I won't. With easy child and sister in law, sister in law always watched Darrin when he didn't have to work. Nichole's boyfriend doesn't want to do that. PLUS the boy doesn't want to pay child support. And stopped buying most of Aubrey's daily needs months and months ago. (Nichole has to throw a fit for pull ups and diaper wipes) So, in my mind, Mr. Tightwad can pay for daycare if he doesn't want to watch his child during his off hours. Nichole is hurt because I haven't gotten her to see that the situations are different. sister in law worked 2 fulltime jobs and still watched Darrin when he was off. Mr. Tightwad works partime, goes to school parttime, and whines if Nichole needs him to watch Aubrey for a couple of hours, plus whines about having to buy the child anything while not paying support for her. Nichole being hurt or not, I'm sticking to my guns on the whole sitting for Aubrey thing. As far as our taxes............Star, the reason it wouldn't be them taking a percentage is that husband's ex racked up quite a bill with MO walfare. Believe me, if they were taking our return for payment, it would be the whole thing. (except state, they can't touch that one) That we have to pay off his ex's welfare bill when she was the one who was too lazy to work is a topic that still can make me livid. *sigh* But husband can produce no paperwork, as there is no paperwork that has been sent to us. He was trying to convince me they told him this when he'd checked on the statis of the return. (yeah, right. I stopped being gullable about 13 yrs ago bud) So now husband is lying (poorly) all over the place trying to cover his fanny. Truely, it would be comical if it didn't involve me. Obviously he had other plans for that whopping return. I've yet to get out of him as to "what" those plans were, be it some huge bill he hasn't been paying, or something else. But now I suddenly realize why I can't stand Nichole's boyfriend. He is so very like my husband it is unsettling. And Nichole's actions concerning him, with the manipulation and such, are so identical to the way I used to be with her Dad, it makes me sick. (and I pray she snaps out of it alot faster than I did) But the tax return thing just succeeded in reminding me why I'm going to school. Soon as I've graduated, husband is outta here. I figure he owes me my schooling after putting up with him for the past 25 yrs. [/QUOTE]
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