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<blockquote data-quote="Needingaboost" data-source="post: 488325" data-attributes="member: 13373"><p>WOW</p><p>Thanks for the responses. </p><p>When I said "nothing seems exceptional about her childhood" I was referring to incidences of sexual abuse, physical abuse, other trauma NOT related to her adoptions. I was spinning off of the question about what other diagnoses she has. She was seeing a therapist when we adopted her but was released from that therapist. After my husband left, I put her in therapy again. Initially the therapist did individual therapy and it was me who suggested family counseling. I knew that our relationship needed to be worked on. The therapist though the difficult child had ADD, which I struggled with because of her great grades at school and her ability to sit still and make friendship bracelets for hours, but I went with the professional. At the psychiatrist appointment is when we got the official diagnosis of ODD. She did about 8 individual sessions and we did about 4 family sessions. I was quite discouraged because the family therapy consisted of playing uno and the like. I was ready to get down to the nitty gritty. Ironically her medicaid changed and our private insurance doesn't cover therapy sessions. So as of this second, we are not in therapy. </p><p>I appreciate all of the suggestions for books and research on attachment disorders. I will be sure to look into those soon. </p><p>**The husband comes home about once a month for a weekend. He came for an extended time during Thanksgiving and will come again for an extended time for Christmas. I don't want her to go there ahead of schedule. Many reasons, one being the fact that the world will hold her accountable (they don't care about her past) and if she acts out and I send her there, she will get the idea that she can act out and get out of things. She hasn't requested to go there. All of the children know they are going there in June. Now, if the mother in law continues and she leaves (or gets put out), that may have to be an option because of my scheduling. </p><p>Buddy....I really appreciate your post about TIME IN. I am only human and my feelings get hurt too. It is difficult for me to spend time with her after the yelling and screaming and blaming me for everything under the sun but I know that is important. Your post reminded me of that. Thank you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Needingaboost, post: 488325, member: 13373"] WOW Thanks for the responses. When I said "nothing seems exceptional about her childhood" I was referring to incidences of sexual abuse, physical abuse, other trauma NOT related to her adoptions. I was spinning off of the question about what other diagnoses she has. She was seeing a therapist when we adopted her but was released from that therapist. After my husband left, I put her in therapy again. Initially the therapist did individual therapy and it was me who suggested family counseling. I knew that our relationship needed to be worked on. The therapist though the difficult child had ADD, which I struggled with because of her great grades at school and her ability to sit still and make friendship bracelets for hours, but I went with the professional. At the psychiatrist appointment is when we got the official diagnosis of ODD. She did about 8 individual sessions and we did about 4 family sessions. I was quite discouraged because the family therapy consisted of playing uno and the like. I was ready to get down to the nitty gritty. Ironically her medicaid changed and our private insurance doesn't cover therapy sessions. So as of this second, we are not in therapy. I appreciate all of the suggestions for books and research on attachment disorders. I will be sure to look into those soon. **The husband comes home about once a month for a weekend. He came for an extended time during Thanksgiving and will come again for an extended time for Christmas. I don't want her to go there ahead of schedule. Many reasons, one being the fact that the world will hold her accountable (they don't care about her past) and if she acts out and I send her there, she will get the idea that she can act out and get out of things. She hasn't requested to go there. All of the children know they are going there in June. Now, if the mother in law continues and she leaves (or gets put out), that may have to be an option because of my scheduling. Buddy....I really appreciate your post about TIME IN. I am only human and my feelings get hurt too. It is difficult for me to spend time with her after the yelling and screaming and blaming me for everything under the sun but I know that is important. Your post reminded me of that. Thank you. [/QUOTE]
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