I have a nine year old (well, he'll be ten in about a month) that is about to push me over the edge, and I'm just now finding out it may not be all my fault! His dad and I divorced four years ago, and although he's only ten miles away, it is sometimes a month or more between visits. My son has not been diagnosed with any disorder yet, although he fits the profile for ODD to a T! He's defiant, argumentative, and is starting to show signs of getting physical when he's angry. It's only with people he's around a lot and that are most interested in him; his father has never seen any of the behavior, and insists it's me that has a problem. His teachers have noticed this year he has a major problem with lying about turning work in and claims the teacher lost it or another student stole it. He's in a program for gifted children, and seems to have no problem with that class; it's his regular classes where he has a problem (the teacher is very "free form", letting the kids do "centers" and work at their own pace) Around the house, it's a battle anytime I ask him to clean his room, to take a bath, to do anything beyond what he wants to do. He screams at me, hits walls, slams doors, tells me I can;t take things form him . . . This morning he did not want to go to school; I was attempting to get his shoes on when he accidentally kicked me in the nose (he was flailing around and I lost my grip on his foot) No damage, but it has me scared. I look forward to getting to know you all, and hope you can help me get a grip on how to control him. He's ususally a great kid and a joy to be around, but it's getting to where I don't know what to believe that he says, and I don't like having to walk on eggshells with him!