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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 563205" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Mutt</p><p></p><p>Did they actually repair your mom's hip at her age??</p><p></p><p>Ok. That was the original reason mother in law went into the nursing home, same as your mom. Although we did try a stint with asst living that didn't work out. Then back to nursing home. They didn't repair mother in law's hip, at 96 the surgery was deemed too dangerous to even attempt. Nursing home was paid as long as she did therapy for the hip. Now at this point I could care less if it is legal or not, but nursing home staff, pt ect who knew she obviously was never going to improve worth a darn and it certainly would never be safe enough to return home ect, got on the same page with us and kept that pt going (which kept the bills paid) for well over a year or more. It only stopped because mother in law refused to go after that point. Once it stopped, it was a whole other ball game and the house had to be sold ect ect. </p><p></p><p>So perhaps pt and staff would be willing to keep her in therapy as long as humanly possible knowing the strain on you ect that this situation is causing. </p><p></p><p>Another idea, is there maybe someone in a local church or something with nurse aide or nursing that would like to earn a tad bit of spending money? Maybe just to come in and help you bathe her and put her to bed? I know money is tight for everyone but thought if you could handle it up to that point perhaps it would take part of the load off you. And you could have them help you learn to work with bedpans and the like so it is far easier on you. It is not hard, there is just a method that works well and those that don't and make a mess. Any possible way of making her up a bed on the lower floor? Maybe pick a corner of a room and set up a curtain/drape for privacy. My mom moved her bedroom to the family room for this reason. My mother in law moved down into her living room for the same reason. It worked ok for both of them. </p><p></p><p>Just trying to toss out some ideas to make this less stressful and more doable for you.</p><p></p><p>((hugs))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 563205, member: 84"] Mutt Did they actually repair your mom's hip at her age?? Ok. That was the original reason mother in law went into the nursing home, same as your mom. Although we did try a stint with asst living that didn't work out. Then back to nursing home. They didn't repair mother in law's hip, at 96 the surgery was deemed too dangerous to even attempt. Nursing home was paid as long as she did therapy for the hip. Now at this point I could care less if it is legal or not, but nursing home staff, pt ect who knew she obviously was never going to improve worth a darn and it certainly would never be safe enough to return home ect, got on the same page with us and kept that pt going (which kept the bills paid) for well over a year or more. It only stopped because mother in law refused to go after that point. Once it stopped, it was a whole other ball game and the house had to be sold ect ect. So perhaps pt and staff would be willing to keep her in therapy as long as humanly possible knowing the strain on you ect that this situation is causing. Another idea, is there maybe someone in a local church or something with nurse aide or nursing that would like to earn a tad bit of spending money? Maybe just to come in and help you bathe her and put her to bed? I know money is tight for everyone but thought if you could handle it up to that point perhaps it would take part of the load off you. And you could have them help you learn to work with bedpans and the like so it is far easier on you. It is not hard, there is just a method that works well and those that don't and make a mess. Any possible way of making her up a bed on the lower floor? Maybe pick a corner of a room and set up a curtain/drape for privacy. My mom moved her bedroom to the family room for this reason. My mother in law moved down into her living room for the same reason. It worked ok for both of them. Just trying to toss out some ideas to make this less stressful and more doable for you. ((hugs)) [/QUOTE]
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