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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 390373" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Why not spend any money you would use for difficult child's christmas gifts to buy small lockboxes for everyone in the home. Then any sugary snacks are locked up there for the individual person to consume at their will. Make sure that they are all well hidden and/or locked away from difficult child. Otherwise, find some cabinet that you can put a strong lock on and keep the sugary stuff there, away from her. Otherwise the only option is to not buy it.</p><p></p><p>As for the underwear, surely at 15 she is old enough to reap the natural consequences of wearing undies for days at a time. Or she has lost them all or given them away. Either way, I would not fight over it simply because it is not worth the effort. If she gets an infection from wearing dirty undies, well, she can pay the doctor bill to get medications to clear it up. No money? gee, I guess she owes you labor (if you want to fight that battle) or you should pawn her ipod, stereo, tv, whatever to pay for the bill. If she truly wants the item back from the pawn shop she can find a way to earn the $$.</p><p></p><p>I would tell the school that I am NOT coming up for a meeting about her "plan" because all she is doing is trying to find a way to not work. When she starts doing her work, putting real effort and labor into her schooling, <em>then and only then</em> would I go to school to discuss changing her plan. Period. If they have a problem with it, they can speak to her. School matters should be between difficult child and school. Period. Parents ONLY get involved if she earns the right to change things. Otherwise, school should impose whatever consequences are appropriate for her behavior and choices. It really is NOT your problem. difficult child is the one who will suffer because she refuses to do her schoolwork. Youwould not go to her place of employement to negotiate her job description and tasks, that would be something for her to handle. School is her job right now. Her performance is on her, not you. She can negotiate her "plan" or job description with the school people, she can also negotate her assignments and other things with the teachers, and you have very little influence over her school issues. Regardless of what you do, she is going to do what she wants. Take yourself as far out of that equation as is possible and let HER figure out how to get things done. </p><p></p><p>I am sorry you have all this koi going on. (((((hugs)))))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 390373, member: 1233"] Why not spend any money you would use for difficult child's christmas gifts to buy small lockboxes for everyone in the home. Then any sugary snacks are locked up there for the individual person to consume at their will. Make sure that they are all well hidden and/or locked away from difficult child. Otherwise, find some cabinet that you can put a strong lock on and keep the sugary stuff there, away from her. Otherwise the only option is to not buy it. As for the underwear, surely at 15 she is old enough to reap the natural consequences of wearing undies for days at a time. Or she has lost them all or given them away. Either way, I would not fight over it simply because it is not worth the effort. If she gets an infection from wearing dirty undies, well, she can pay the doctor bill to get medications to clear it up. No money? gee, I guess she owes you labor (if you want to fight that battle) or you should pawn her ipod, stereo, tv, whatever to pay for the bill. If she truly wants the item back from the pawn shop she can find a way to earn the $$. I would tell the school that I am NOT coming up for a meeting about her "plan" because all she is doing is trying to find a way to not work. When she starts doing her work, putting real effort and labor into her schooling, [I]then and only then[/I] would I go to school to discuss changing her plan. Period. If they have a problem with it, they can speak to her. School matters should be between difficult child and school. Period. Parents ONLY get involved if she earns the right to change things. Otherwise, school should impose whatever consequences are appropriate for her behavior and choices. It really is NOT your problem. difficult child is the one who will suffer because she refuses to do her schoolwork. Youwould not go to her place of employement to negotiate her job description and tasks, that would be something for her to handle. School is her job right now. Her performance is on her, not you. She can negotiate her "plan" or job description with the school people, she can also negotate her assignments and other things with the teachers, and you have very little influence over her school issues. Regardless of what you do, she is going to do what she wants. Take yourself as far out of that equation as is possible and let HER figure out how to get things done. I am sorry you have all this koi going on. (((((hugs))))) [/QUOTE]
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