Ok I am new here and not quite sure where to start. Well I have a 15 year old stepson who has ADHD,ODD,MOOD DISORDER, and CONDUCUT DISORDER. He has lived with us since OCT of 08--4 1/2 months, and our lives have been turned upside down.
I am currently home schooling him as he cannot behave in school and was getting no education what so ever. So yesterday I noticed he was completly off (just not paying attention or doing what was asked) normal behavior. So last night my husband was going over chemistry with him and he told his father that I never gave him the periodic table (which I might add we had colored it together and glued it into the back of his book),which I showed husband and again its the lying. Ok so I overlooked it but was just upset yesterday but didnt say a word.
Now this morning he was completly off doodling not doing what he knows he has to do, so I gave 2 warnings that if he didnt straighten up I was going to cancel todays lessons and he would recieve a 0. Well needless to say he kept it up and I told him to go to his room and he could deal with his father when he gets home. Than I looked in his room and sure enough he was going to take a nap to pass the time and I told him to sit on the floor and think about what he did. He stormed into the kitchen and had this stance about himself that was very intimidating, and than went out the front door and sat on the driveway and I told him I was going to call the cops he told me to go right ahead.
So now I am trying to reach husband and finally get ahold of him and told him what was going on and he said for me to put him on the phone. He yelled at him and than he told his father that I threw him out of the house and that I am cursing at him---Omg why does he have to lie????? Than told his father that the homeschooling is just not working that I want to tear him down after he's doing so well.
Now husband gets on phone with me and says why am I doing these things???I felt like saying something really nasty but held my cool and just told him he needs to find a long term care facility for him because this is just not working. I am tired of being the punching bag for him. He can't and wont do what he's supposed to do so you give in to him..
I am sitting here in tears and really angry that in 4 months this kid has destroyed our once peaceful home. What do I do???? I think its best if I move out at this point because I am tired of being the target in my house.
Oh and also he stepped on the dog today (which he has of history of hurting animals.)
I'm sorry for such a long rant but I don't know where else to turn. I feel like I am at my witts end.
Any advise would greatly be appreciated.
And by the way he's sitting at the computer now doing his work like the little angle he is so he can tell daddy that see it was all Donna and not me.
I am currently home schooling him as he cannot behave in school and was getting no education what so ever. So yesterday I noticed he was completly off (just not paying attention or doing what was asked) normal behavior. So last night my husband was going over chemistry with him and he told his father that I never gave him the periodic table (which I might add we had colored it together and glued it into the back of his book),which I showed husband and again its the lying. Ok so I overlooked it but was just upset yesterday but didnt say a word.
Now this morning he was completly off doodling not doing what he knows he has to do, so I gave 2 warnings that if he didnt straighten up I was going to cancel todays lessons and he would recieve a 0. Well needless to say he kept it up and I told him to go to his room and he could deal with his father when he gets home. Than I looked in his room and sure enough he was going to take a nap to pass the time and I told him to sit on the floor and think about what he did. He stormed into the kitchen and had this stance about himself that was very intimidating, and than went out the front door and sat on the driveway and I told him I was going to call the cops he told me to go right ahead.
So now I am trying to reach husband and finally get ahold of him and told him what was going on and he said for me to put him on the phone. He yelled at him and than he told his father that I threw him out of the house and that I am cursing at him---Omg why does he have to lie????? Than told his father that the homeschooling is just not working that I want to tear him down after he's doing so well.
Now husband gets on phone with me and says why am I doing these things???I felt like saying something really nasty but held my cool and just told him he needs to find a long term care facility for him because this is just not working. I am tired of being the punching bag for him. He can't and wont do what he's supposed to do so you give in to him..
I am sitting here in tears and really angry that in 4 months this kid has destroyed our once peaceful home. What do I do???? I think its best if I move out at this point because I am tired of being the target in my house.
Oh and also he stepped on the dog today (which he has of history of hurting animals.)
I'm sorry for such a long rant but I don't know where else to turn. I feel like I am at my witts end.
Any advise would greatly be appreciated.
And by the way he's sitting at the computer now doing his work like the little angle he is so he can tell daddy that see it was all Donna and not me.