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<blockquote data-quote="smallworld" data-source="post: 248736" data-attributes="member: 2423"><p>Donna, the public school must educate him by federal law. If he was having problems related to his disability on day 4 of school, it seems perfectly reasonable to request that the school conduct an evaluation for an IEP. If the school cannot educate him in his current setting, they are obligated to find an alternative setting that meets his needs. In my humble opinion, I'd be pursuing that route PDQ before agreeing to homeschool him. I know I would have a very hard time homeschooling my own son, who is the same age as your difficult child and has a bipolar diagnosis.</p><p> </p><p>Which leads me to some suggestions on how you should deal with him until his school situation is straightened out. First, read The Explosive Child. You will get a better understanding of how your difficult child thinks and reacts as well as some suggestions on how to handle him. </p><p> </p><p>Second, some of his behaviors border on typical teen rather than disordered thinking. I don't know many teens who would honestly care if you as a homeschooling teacher threatened a 0 if they didn't do their work. The consequence doesn't hold much weight nor is it motivating to make him do his work. I also think it's pretty typical of teens to want to nap when they have nothing better to do. Personally, I think you need to find positive ways to motivate him rather than negative ways to dissuade him from unwanted behavior.</p><p> </p><p>Third, I think it's critically important that your difficult child be evaluated thoroughly and treated for his disorders. I suspect, from my years of hanging out on this board, that a mood disorder is fueling oppositional and conduct-disordered behaviors as well as ADHD-like inattention. When the right medications treat the mood disorder, the other behaviors will typically improve. Is he still on Strattera? Is it making things better or worse? Not only is Strattera effective in only 40 percent of kids with ADHD, but it also can make kids, particularly those with mood disorders, more moody, angry and irritable. How much Risperdal is he taking? There's a chance it's not high enough to address his behaviors, and it might need to be augmented by a mood stabilizer (Depakote, Lithium, Lamictal, Trileptal and Tegretol). If you're not working with a child/adolescent psychiatrist who has expertise in mood disorders, I strongly recommend you find one. A neuropsychological evaluation would certainly be in your family's best interest as well.</p><p> </p><p>Hang in there.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="smallworld, post: 248736, member: 2423"] Donna, the public school must educate him by federal law. If he was having problems related to his disability on day 4 of school, it seems perfectly reasonable to request that the school conduct an evaluation for an IEP. If the school cannot educate him in his current setting, they are obligated to find an alternative setting that meets his needs. In my humble opinion, I'd be pursuing that route PDQ before agreeing to homeschool him. I know I would have a very hard time homeschooling my own son, who is the same age as your difficult child and has a bipolar diagnosis. Which leads me to some suggestions on how you should deal with him until his school situation is straightened out. First, read The Explosive Child. You will get a better understanding of how your difficult child thinks and reacts as well as some suggestions on how to handle him. Second, some of his behaviors border on typical teen rather than disordered thinking. I don't know many teens who would honestly care if you as a homeschooling teacher threatened a 0 if they didn't do their work. The consequence doesn't hold much weight nor is it motivating to make him do his work. I also think it's pretty typical of teens to want to nap when they have nothing better to do. Personally, I think you need to find positive ways to motivate him rather than negative ways to dissuade him from unwanted behavior. Third, I think it's critically important that your difficult child be evaluated thoroughly and treated for his disorders. I suspect, from my years of hanging out on this board, that a mood disorder is fueling oppositional and conduct-disordered behaviors as well as ADHD-like inattention. When the right medications treat the mood disorder, the other behaviors will typically improve. Is he still on Strattera? Is it making things better or worse? Not only is Strattera effective in only 40 percent of kids with ADHD, but it also can make kids, particularly those with mood disorders, more moody, angry and irritable. How much Risperdal is he taking? There's a chance it's not high enough to address his behaviors, and it might need to be augmented by a mood stabilizer (Depakote, Lithium, Lamictal, Trileptal and Tegretol). If you're not working with a child/adolescent psychiatrist who has expertise in mood disorders, I strongly recommend you find one. A neuropsychological evaluation would certainly be in your family's best interest as well. Hang in there. [/QUOTE]
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