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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 429112" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Kjs, </p><p> </p><p>Well.....I so get where you are coming from. I think a lot of people get where you are coming from. Matter of fact? (HUGE LONG DEEP EXHALE) When I first went into therapy? One of the first absolute gripes I brought to the table was "Why is it that I seem to do all the right things, follow the rules, color inside the lines, don't smoke, don't swear (shut up Janet), don't even jay walk, catch shopping carts as they drift down the hill at the Kmart to keep them from dinging other peoples cars, let people out into traffic and am polite about it, won't be greedy and take the last loaf of bread if there are two and I hear someone walking down the aisle with kids saying Oh look it's the last loaf, try to remember to do things like say thank you and please, remind someone every day they look nice or be kind and yet EVERY single time I'm turning around? and I do the speed limit i my car ALL THE TIME, yet watch idiots speed like 65 in a school zone ALL THE TIME but let me be late just one time and go over 3 mph JUST THREE lousy MPH in a residential zone or not come to a complete halting stop on a road in the dead of night at 3 in the morning when I'm sick and out getitng DF some cough medicine? and It's ME.....It's ME that is getting a ticket? Or it's ME that is the person in the store going for that last loaf of bread and the greedy woman takes both loafs and smirks - or it's ME that drives through the glass after 200 people have and I get the flat? Or its me that has the (fill in my life) </p><p> </p><p>So now you know at least I guess that you aren't alone in your thought process and it doesn't even ever need to get to a whizzing contest - it does not take much to look around and see there are others who have it so much worse off than you - which isn't the point of my point - but when these problems are yours? They're real, they're close, they're personal, and they hurt. So you naturally want someone to share the load, and when you seem to have more than your fair share (whatever that is?) Life can get over whelming. And when it seems like life has been over welming for a lot longer than just a month or a year - but for a life? It's time to sit down and talk to someone about it, and figure out that you really have been having a bad life. Not just a few instances that rolled into a week that rolled into a month, that rolled into a year into years ....but this is your LIFE.....and you need to be pro-active about it NOW. Why now? Well - actually because you've gotten to the point where you're beyond treading water honey - you're sinking and at this point? You've realized it and you CAN DO SOMETHING about it. </p><p> </p><p>You're angry about it. Sounds kinda odd - but there isn't really any better time to take action and take control of your life than now. Thing is - you are sitting there and you're probably saying to yourself "Well good Star I already said I was angry - now if i KNEW how to fix it don't you think I already would have (You adorable jackass)?" and I say Well KJS Yes actually but since you don't then you need to find someone to HELP you. See everyone seems to have such an aversion to mechanics. ..........(wha?) mechanics. ??? yup. Car is broken you take it to a window washer. No no no....a Mechanic. Right? Right! Life is broken you take it to a life fixer. That would be a shrink, a therapist, a phsychiatrist, a brain doctor, an emotional rescue.....(do do do do do do dooooooooooo) and there? You hash out some stuff to figure out how to put the penny in the gum slot. And not be so overwhelmed. </p><p> </p><p>Sounds really simple like you should be able to fix it all yourself or If you just cut this out or that out or stopped this or that - you'd be fine - but if that were true - you would have already done it because you're just overwhelmed not stupid. You in fact are VERY smart. Just tried to do too much and not delegate, for whatever reason - but again there in the emotional rescue place (do do do do dod dooo doooo can't you just hear Mick Jagger singing?) you get help with that. And maybe if you aren't adverse to a little Mother's helper for a while since your endorphines and seretonin are probably depleted? Some SSRI's or something. </p><p> </p><p>I dunno - You're smart. Figure it out. Ohhhhhh I see......"I don't have time (insert sock puppet) -==========yeah well keep going like you are - maybe you'll get so angry you'll make time or MAYBE? You'll just have a heart attack and then your family will figure out how to do all the things you did....an (well you know) without you....and everything will be fine. Just fine. And we'll figure out what to do without you......yeah...(insert sad sad face) </p><p> </p><p>Okay well gotta go get some tissue now. You make me so sad. Sniff. </p><p> </p><p>Hugs.....</p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 429112, member: 4964"] Kjs, Well.....I so get where you are coming from. I think a lot of people get where you are coming from. Matter of fact? (HUGE LONG DEEP EXHALE) When I first went into therapy? One of the first absolute gripes I brought to the table was "Why is it that I seem to do all the right things, follow the rules, color inside the lines, don't smoke, don't swear (shut up Janet), don't even jay walk, catch shopping carts as they drift down the hill at the Kmart to keep them from dinging other peoples cars, let people out into traffic and am polite about it, won't be greedy and take the last loaf of bread if there are two and I hear someone walking down the aisle with kids saying Oh look it's the last loaf, try to remember to do things like say thank you and please, remind someone every day they look nice or be kind and yet EVERY single time I'm turning around? and I do the speed limit i my car ALL THE TIME, yet watch idiots speed like 65 in a school zone ALL THE TIME but let me be late just one time and go over 3 mph JUST THREE lousy MPH in a residential zone or not come to a complete halting stop on a road in the dead of night at 3 in the morning when I'm sick and out getitng DF some cough medicine? and It's ME.....It's ME that is getting a ticket? Or it's ME that is the person in the store going for that last loaf of bread and the greedy woman takes both loafs and smirks - or it's ME that drives through the glass after 200 people have and I get the flat? Or its me that has the (fill in my life) So now you know at least I guess that you aren't alone in your thought process and it doesn't even ever need to get to a whizzing contest - it does not take much to look around and see there are others who have it so much worse off than you - which isn't the point of my point - but when these problems are yours? They're real, they're close, they're personal, and they hurt. So you naturally want someone to share the load, and when you seem to have more than your fair share (whatever that is?) Life can get over whelming. And when it seems like life has been over welming for a lot longer than just a month or a year - but for a life? It's time to sit down and talk to someone about it, and figure out that you really have been having a bad life. Not just a few instances that rolled into a week that rolled into a month, that rolled into a year into years ....but this is your LIFE.....and you need to be pro-active about it NOW. Why now? Well - actually because you've gotten to the point where you're beyond treading water honey - you're sinking and at this point? You've realized it and you CAN DO SOMETHING about it. You're angry about it. Sounds kinda odd - but there isn't really any better time to take action and take control of your life than now. Thing is - you are sitting there and you're probably saying to yourself "Well good Star I already said I was angry - now if i KNEW how to fix it don't you think I already would have (You adorable jackass)?" and I say Well KJS Yes actually but since you don't then you need to find someone to HELP you. See everyone seems to have such an aversion to mechanics. ..........(wha?) mechanics. ??? yup. Car is broken you take it to a window washer. No no no....a Mechanic. Right? Right! Life is broken you take it to a life fixer. That would be a shrink, a therapist, a phsychiatrist, a brain doctor, an emotional rescue.....(do do do do do do dooooooooooo) and there? You hash out some stuff to figure out how to put the penny in the gum slot. And not be so overwhelmed. Sounds really simple like you should be able to fix it all yourself or If you just cut this out or that out or stopped this or that - you'd be fine - but if that were true - you would have already done it because you're just overwhelmed not stupid. You in fact are VERY smart. Just tried to do too much and not delegate, for whatever reason - but again there in the emotional rescue place (do do do do dod dooo doooo can't you just hear Mick Jagger singing?) you get help with that. And maybe if you aren't adverse to a little Mother's helper for a while since your endorphines and seretonin are probably depleted? Some SSRI's or something. I dunno - You're smart. Figure it out. Ohhhhhh I see......"I don't have time (insert sock puppet) -==========yeah well keep going like you are - maybe you'll get so angry you'll make time or MAYBE? You'll just have a heart attack and then your family will figure out how to do all the things you did....an (well you know) without you....and everything will be fine. Just fine. And we'll figure out what to do without you......yeah...(insert sad sad face) Okay well gotta go get some tissue now. You make me so sad. Sniff. Hugs..... Star [/QUOTE]
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