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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 621857" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>I'm so sorry lonelyone. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I wouldn't be so hard on yourself, it isn't your "fault" that you feel so sad and lonely, you feel sad and lonely because of the situation you are presently in, being estranged from both of your kids is devastating for all of us...........so please, be kind to yourself. </p><p></p><p>I agree that you need to get a life outside of your children, however, you've just received a sucker punch so give yourself a little bit of time to adjust to this new phase of your life. I imagine you will take action when you are ready to change.</p><p></p><p>Whatever your kids are up to now, for whatever reason, you and they need to take some space. Whether this is temporary or permanent, you don't have any way of knowing. All you have is this moment in time to learn how to redirect your energies and focus on yourself. </p><p></p><p>When you feel ready, you may want to begin to learn the tools of detachment which are mapped out in that article at the bottom of my post. You might enjoy reading some books, like Living Beautifully, Comfortable in Uncertainty and When things fall apart, all by Peme Chodron. Seeking professional help is something many of us choose since detaching from our kids and accepting their choices rather then trying to control their choices is an extremely challenging thing to do. </p><p></p><p>One of the most difficult things for us is to focus on ourselves after we've been heavily focused on our kids. It takes practice and support. I hope that you continue posting here, it helps. Take very good care of yourself now, it's very important that you nourish your own needs and make sure you get YOUR needs met. I wish you peace............hang in there..........</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 621857, member: 13542"] I'm so sorry lonelyone. I wouldn't be so hard on yourself, it isn't your "fault" that you feel so sad and lonely, you feel sad and lonely because of the situation you are presently in, being estranged from both of your kids is devastating for all of us...........so please, be kind to yourself. I agree that you need to get a life outside of your children, however, you've just received a sucker punch so give yourself a little bit of time to adjust to this new phase of your life. I imagine you will take action when you are ready to change. Whatever your kids are up to now, for whatever reason, you and they need to take some space. Whether this is temporary or permanent, you don't have any way of knowing. All you have is this moment in time to learn how to redirect your energies and focus on yourself. When you feel ready, you may want to begin to learn the tools of detachment which are mapped out in that article at the bottom of my post. You might enjoy reading some books, like Living Beautifully, Comfortable in Uncertainty and When things fall apart, all by Peme Chodron. Seeking professional help is something many of us choose since detaching from our kids and accepting their choices rather then trying to control their choices is an extremely challenging thing to do. One of the most difficult things for us is to focus on ourselves after we've been heavily focused on our kids. It takes practice and support. I hope that you continue posting here, it helps. Take very good care of yourself now, it's very important that you nourish your own needs and make sure you get YOUR needs met. I wish you peace............hang in there.......... [/QUOTE]
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