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<blockquote data-quote="exhausted" data-source="post: 418304" data-attributes="member: 11001"><p>Wow good to read all these posts! It has made me think. I really do believe in "picking battles" with kids-esp. tough kids. In my classroom I have kids that need different things and are on different places in the journey towards adulthood. I have to start where they are and with what they need first. Now, with my own kids it has been hard to see the "forest for the trees" at times. My son was just kind of easier to manage. He did have some issues-disorganized as all get out, a bit stubborn about clothing (still prefers shorts and t-shirts in the dead of winter), and a bit of a fight to get homework out of him. I just used traditional stuff and he came around bit by bit. Interesting that he now has long hair and tatoos (I call it girl repellant). He tells me I'm strict and maybe my daughter fights everything because I called friends' parents, insisted on homework being done, expected they contribute to the home with chores (which has never happened in any consistancy with my daughter unless I micro-manage), and be home for dinner. As far as language, I have lost on all accounts. My kids talk like most of the kids do-as a teacher it is amazing how that behavior has esculated since the social networking. I wont however allow my children to call me names. I don't do it to them, and they have never crossed that line. Weird, because my daughter doesn't seem to see most lines, concrete or sand. I stopped fighting the "f-bombs", the black eyeliner, and recently the cleavage (I let the school deal here). I do think with girls the way they dress and look sends a real message and can become a safety issue-but I have had to give that one up and let counselors and treatment school manage. When everything is a battle, you have to pick the juicy ones to sink your sword into because you only have so much energy.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="exhausted, post: 418304, member: 11001"] Wow good to read all these posts! It has made me think. I really do believe in "picking battles" with kids-esp. tough kids. In my classroom I have kids that need different things and are on different places in the journey towards adulthood. I have to start where they are and with what they need first. Now, with my own kids it has been hard to see the "forest for the trees" at times. My son was just kind of easier to manage. He did have some issues-disorganized as all get out, a bit stubborn about clothing (still prefers shorts and t-shirts in the dead of winter), and a bit of a fight to get homework out of him. I just used traditional stuff and he came around bit by bit. Interesting that he now has long hair and tatoos (I call it girl repellant). He tells me I'm strict and maybe my daughter fights everything because I called friends' parents, insisted on homework being done, expected they contribute to the home with chores (which has never happened in any consistancy with my daughter unless I micro-manage), and be home for dinner. As far as language, I have lost on all accounts. My kids talk like most of the kids do-as a teacher it is amazing how that behavior has esculated since the social networking. I wont however allow my children to call me names. I don't do it to them, and they have never crossed that line. Weird, because my daughter doesn't seem to see most lines, concrete or sand. I stopped fighting the "f-bombs", the black eyeliner, and recently the cleavage (I let the school deal here). I do think with girls the way they dress and look sends a real message and can become a safety issue-but I have had to give that one up and let counselors and treatment school manage. When everything is a battle, you have to pick the juicy ones to sink your sword into because you only have so much energy. [/QUOTE]
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