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<blockquote data-quote="dstc_99" data-source="post: 610165" data-attributes="member: 15473"><p>Probably the best thing about this site and having experienced my mother's mental health issues is that I am able to realize it isn't all me. Just like you I spent years as a young child thinking my mothers issues were all my fault and then when difficult child got so bad I was convinced it was my parenting. Now I realize it isn't me. I am sure I have done a thousand things wrong but in the long run nothing I have done has caused this to happen. </p><p></p><p>My mother plays her cards differently than difficult child. She goes to all the Dr's she can and gets all the "help" she can but doesn't make any effort on her side. She loves to quote things the Dr tells her while she drinks her third glass of wine from a 15oz wine glass. She loves to tell me about eating healthy while she orders dessert. Her methods are generally manipulative.</p><p></p><p>difficult child is so similar it is almost scary. The only difference with her is that "nothing is wrong with her" and she refuses to get help. Everyone else is the problem. She manipulates to no end but will never admit to it. She just uses anger to do it while my mother uses pity.</p><p></p><p>Thankfully after going to therapy and reading this board I feel much better qualified to detach. Now I just need to do keep doing it.</p><p></p><p>*PS: I am positive you are not evil and I am Catholic! LOL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dstc_99, post: 610165, member: 15473"] Probably the best thing about this site and having experienced my mother's mental health issues is that I am able to realize it isn't all me. Just like you I spent years as a young child thinking my mothers issues were all my fault and then when difficult child got so bad I was convinced it was my parenting. Now I realize it isn't me. I am sure I have done a thousand things wrong but in the long run nothing I have done has caused this to happen. My mother plays her cards differently than difficult child. She goes to all the Dr's she can and gets all the "help" she can but doesn't make any effort on her side. She loves to quote things the Dr tells her while she drinks her third glass of wine from a 15oz wine glass. She loves to tell me about eating healthy while she orders dessert. Her methods are generally manipulative. difficult child is so similar it is almost scary. The only difference with her is that "nothing is wrong with her" and she refuses to get help. Everyone else is the problem. She manipulates to no end but will never admit to it. She just uses anger to do it while my mother uses pity. Thankfully after going to therapy and reading this board I feel much better qualified to detach. Now I just need to do keep doing it. *PS: I am positive you are not evil and I am Catholic! LOL [/QUOTE]
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