A quick update - last week my difficult child stayed with neighbours and made the decision that she will never live here again. On Friday she stopped here to put air in the tires before going to work and to collect her weekly allowance - we had previously agreed to divide her pay check into 4 weekly allotments so that she would have money to end of the month. She went to work and quit her job. Sat she came here when we weren't home and packed her things and moved to a near by town where she will hopefully start college on Sept. 17. She left the truck here as she was only to be using it for work and I guess she did realize that we meant it when we told her that was all she could use it for. She never left a note, or called to say she was moving, and still has not contacted us. I don't know the number of where she is staying. Questions: Should I be looking around trying to reach her? She left her room in a mess, of course, dirty clothes, junk, garbage, etc all over like usual. What would you do with that? I would like to have use of the room for company in a couple of weeks. I feel mean if I pack all the garbage, dirty clothes and good stuff together, yet I feel like I shouldn't have to sort through her mess either. She could have moved like a normal person, there was no reason to sneak out when we weren't home. I would continue to help her budget her money and have in fact set up her student funding account as a joint signature account hoping to yet teach her to live on a weekly allowance. I'm just so sad, I've tried so hard and nothing works, and she can't even leave normally and be friendly. Why does she always have to leave in a hostile stupid manner? And why does she always have to be promiscuous as soon as she leaves home?