Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Some of you may remember me??
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 174908" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>I am newer here. I am so sorry you are going through this. I agree with the others do not let H stay at your place. Wonder the real reason? Is he having a tiff with his new girl and need a place to stay so uses the boys to get a free bed and breakfast? How far in advance do you know he is coming?</p><p> </p><p>Do you know for sure if he is actually staying at his parents or is he living with his girlfriend? Do his parents know he has left?</p><p> </p><p>Anyway, I would tell him that he choose to leave so he needs to leave. It is too confusing for the boys if he keeps coming back with no intentions of staying. They may get their hopes dashed with every visit.</p><p></p><p>Make it perfectly clear that the moment he walked out that door, he lost all authority in the house, including "visiting" whenever he wanted. It is no longer his home. He needs to grow up and find a new home.</p><p> </p><p>I had a friend whose husband walked out on her after 20 years - one daughter was graduating college and the other high school the year he decided to walk. She was also a stay at home mom all those years with no education. He decided not to provide any support whatsoever - not even money for groceries to feed the daughter that was at home. He froze all accounts and came up with some stupid reason why the house was his parent's and not theirs. She had nothing!! What a total nightmare - and of course a few years later, he comes looking for her to take him back. Fortunatly she had learned her lesson and refused to be his new home. </p><p> </p><p>Why do some guys think they can walk away from being a parent? Too bad they can't get some of the overly protective emotional attachment qualities we get to inherit with our kids.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 174908, member: 5096"] I am newer here. I am so sorry you are going through this. I agree with the others do not let H stay at your place. Wonder the real reason? Is he having a tiff with his new girl and need a place to stay so uses the boys to get a free bed and breakfast? How far in advance do you know he is coming? Do you know for sure if he is actually staying at his parents or is he living with his girlfriend? Do his parents know he has left? Anyway, I would tell him that he choose to leave so he needs to leave. It is too confusing for the boys if he keeps coming back with no intentions of staying. They may get their hopes dashed with every visit. Make it perfectly clear that the moment he walked out that door, he lost all authority in the house, including "visiting" whenever he wanted. It is no longer his home. He needs to grow up and find a new home. I had a friend whose husband walked out on her after 20 years - one daughter was graduating college and the other high school the year he decided to walk. She was also a stay at home mom all those years with no education. He decided not to provide any support whatsoever - not even money for groceries to feed the daughter that was at home. He froze all accounts and came up with some stupid reason why the house was his parent's and not theirs. She had nothing!! What a total nightmare - and of course a few years later, he comes looking for her to take him back. Fortunatly she had learned her lesson and refused to be his new home. Why do some guys think they can walk away from being a parent? Too bad they can't get some of the overly protective emotional attachment qualities we get to inherit with our kids. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Some of you may remember me??
Top