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<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 174911" data-attributes="member: 805"><p>Hello Me,</p><p> </p><p>(that sounds weird) - I can relate. My exbonehead (I call him bonehead because I sure as heck am not calling him "dear" anything) told me he wanted a seperation about three weeks after my father died unexpectantly after 20 years of marriage and 25 years together.</p><p> </p><p>So, I can relate. I will tell you that if yours is even 25&#37; as much a bonehead as mine is, you will be better off in the long run. Mine has only taken my difficult child three times for overnight since our seperation in 2004 (and easy child has never been to his place for an overnight). </p><p> </p><p>I know it is scary right now, but things will get better and you will get stronger.</p><p> </p><p>Get on the computer and research the divorce laws in your state. Find out what the child support calculations are as well. Then, hire a lawyer. Make sure that, after this many years together, he pays support for your children and some amount of spousal support (usually for a specific amount of time).</p><p> </p><p>Make sure that if he removes you as the beneficiary of his life insurance, that he makes the children the new beneficiaries (make that part of the divorce settlement). If he has a 401K, you are entitled to 1/2 of that as well. There are a lot of support issues after the length of your marriage. Make sure you have a good attorney, or make sure that you know the law before you sign anything!!</p><p> </p><p>Did you all do a seperation agreement?</p><p> </p><p>I'm sorry this is happening to you. But there will be light again in your step - I guarantee it.</p><p> </p><p>Don't waste your time being bitter, make better use of it by getting what you and children deserve from the deadbeat sperm donor.</p><p> </p><p>Sharon</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 174911, member: 805"] Hello Me, (that sounds weird) - I can relate. My exbonehead (I call him bonehead because I sure as heck am not calling him "dear" anything) told me he wanted a seperation about three weeks after my father died unexpectantly after 20 years of marriage and 25 years together. So, I can relate. I will tell you that if yours is even 25% as much a bonehead as mine is, you will be better off in the long run. Mine has only taken my difficult child three times for overnight since our seperation in 2004 (and easy child has never been to his place for an overnight). I know it is scary right now, but things will get better and you will get stronger. Get on the computer and research the divorce laws in your state. Find out what the child support calculations are as well. Then, hire a lawyer. Make sure that, after this many years together, he pays support for your children and some amount of spousal support (usually for a specific amount of time). Make sure that if he removes you as the beneficiary of his life insurance, that he makes the children the new beneficiaries (make that part of the divorce settlement). If he has a 401K, you are entitled to 1/2 of that as well. There are a lot of support issues after the length of your marriage. Make sure you have a good attorney, or make sure that you know the law before you sign anything!! Did you all do a seperation agreement? I'm sorry this is happening to you. But there will be light again in your step - I guarantee it. Don't waste your time being bitter, make better use of it by getting what you and children deserve from the deadbeat sperm donor. Sharon [/QUOTE]
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