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<blockquote data-quote="ME &amp; THE BOYS" data-source="post: 179192" data-attributes="member: 3838"><p>So many emotions ...................</p><p></p><p></p><p>Thank you to everyone who responded. Everyone who offered me emotional support. I am having some horrible days missing my MOTHER. I really was not close to her, until she took ill. She needed me and allowed "US" to get close. She was so much "to herself person, who shared little of her feelings."</p><p></p><p>Then there is the breakdown of my long relationship/marriage. The guy still treats me like **** and knows how to push my buttons.</p><p></p><p>He comes here to stay every Tues./Thurs. night and every other weekend. I haven't anywhere to go, so stay here. I am very particular about the boy's routine and he simply refuses to do his own thing, which really really makes me mad. He wishes to stay in bed and sleep in on his weekends with the boys. This can't happen, they are young, need to eat, fight like cats and dogs if left alone. He get's to sleep in wherever he is, every other weekend. WHAT IS HIS PROBLEM?!!</p><p></p><p>He likes to put on the "I am such an involved dad outside with all the lady neighbours." He will stay outdoors all night with the boys if other lady neighbours are out and play with everyones kids. THEY THINK HE IS JUST GREAT and probably think I am the nag, who is always mad/angry. They likely think I am miserable (I am) and he is the easy going lucky person. Believe me, when he comes in the house, it is a totatlly different ball game. He is either yelling at them, or not speaking to them. He doesn't follow the routine I have set up for them and he doesn't do half of what I do when it is his night here......i.e. doesn't unpack backpacks, make lunches, do the homework,,,. Everything get's thrown to the wind. Homework over the summer is so important to my special needs child. I have always to do the hard work.</p><p></p><p>How can someone I married turn out to be such a jerk? He seems to "get off" manipulating me and I can't help being frustrated by him.</p><p></p><p>The other day, I actually say in my bed and thought back to 25 years ago when we were dating. He was always wishing to please me, do nice things for me, make me feel special. Why, why, knowing I just lost my mom, am grieving a relationship (which he isn't even worth it, but yet I am), and having to deal with a challenging child who fights non stop with his brother not wish to be more kind/helpful.</p><p></p><p>I can't help but really loathing him and that is such a horrible thing to say.</p><p></p><p>Thank you for listening and God Bless.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ME & THE BOYS, post: 179192, member: 3838"] So many emotions ................... Thank you to everyone who responded. Everyone who offered me emotional support. I am having some horrible days missing my MOTHER. I really was not close to her, until she took ill. She needed me and allowed "US" to get close. She was so much "to herself person, who shared little of her feelings." Then there is the breakdown of my long relationship/marriage. The guy still treats me like **** and knows how to push my buttons. He comes here to stay every Tues./Thurs. night and every other weekend. I haven't anywhere to go, so stay here. I am very particular about the boy's routine and he simply refuses to do his own thing, which really really makes me mad. He wishes to stay in bed and sleep in on his weekends with the boys. This can't happen, they are young, need to eat, fight like cats and dogs if left alone. He get's to sleep in wherever he is, every other weekend. WHAT IS HIS PROBLEM?!! He likes to put on the "I am such an involved dad outside with all the lady neighbours." He will stay outdoors all night with the boys if other lady neighbours are out and play with everyones kids. THEY THINK HE IS JUST GREAT and probably think I am the nag, who is always mad/angry. They likely think I am miserable (I am) and he is the easy going lucky person. Believe me, when he comes in the house, it is a totatlly different ball game. He is either yelling at them, or not speaking to them. He doesn't follow the routine I have set up for them and he doesn't do half of what I do when it is his night here......i.e. doesn't unpack backpacks, make lunches, do the homework,,,. Everything get's thrown to the wind. Homework over the summer is so important to my special needs child. I have always to do the hard work. How can someone I married turn out to be such a jerk? He seems to "get off" manipulating me and I can't help being frustrated by him. The other day, I actually say in my bed and thought back to 25 years ago when we were dating. He was always wishing to please me, do nice things for me, make me feel special. Why, why, knowing I just lost my mom, am grieving a relationship (which he isn't even worth it, but yet I am), and having to deal with a challenging child who fights non stop with his brother not wish to be more kind/helpful. I can't help but really loathing him and that is such a horrible thing to say. Thank you for listening and God Bless. [/QUOTE]
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