Okay, I have known for some time that I need to detach, but I can't seem to learn how to do that. My daughter will be leaving home on Sept 15 to attend a small college in a nearby small town. 45 min away. Is there anything I can to do help her keep on track or do I just sit back and wait for all hell to break loose (which should take about 3 days). 1. Any good ideas about budgeting? When she is in her "right" mind she is agreeable to a weekly allowance - she spends all her money on contact. Future worries: 2. Do these kids ever straighten out and be semi normal? Our psycholigist says she is 30% behind, ei currently age 20 by calander, 14 by brain. Can I hope for anything more than some kind of unemployed transient life for her? 3. I am capable of, and have said NO to her and made her fix her own messes, but I always feel so mean when I do that. She is very promiscuos when she is not living at home and uses that for her means of comfort and security. How do I live with the fear of her being killed by some freak? I'll have lots more questions as weeks go on. Thank you to everyone who replys to me.