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Some thoughts about difficult child and this weekend
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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 584105" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>While difficult child's role shift went little farther than just coming home to be babied a bit (which of course is very common also in our culture) I think it is safe to say, it was about that. Coming to safe place to unwind and rest. Considering what happened it probably shouldn't be a surprise difficult child is having hard time letting his guard down enough to sleep in the bus or even in hotel room. These are of course totally different people, but pranks etc. are common and popular part of about any sport team's culture. And while they are not meant to hurt, they can be quite rough and with difficult child's background that is likely to be very triggering. Not only because this one incident but just all the years of being bullied in school and unpopular in his various sport groups. He has always been in the lowest part of any pecking order and had a rough end of the stick in this. And just because now he is in the environment with much stricter rules for pranks and he isn't being pranked isn't enough to make him feel safe now that memories of that one incident are so close to surface for him. </p><p></p><p>I haven't heard from difficult child after he left, but I hoped that is a good sign. And at least he should have had quiet early week. His team is on the road and he is training with one trainer who was left home and maybe with some other injured guys (if they are up to train.) So emotionally and socially easier to difficult child. I do hope he can pull it together and get out from injured list. He will be very disappointed to himself if he can't. And to be honest they are not likely to go far in play-offs so season will not likely continue much longer. After that there will likely be some hard things to deal with (like difficult child's future, he is under contract, but we have no idea if his team is going to keep him or cut him off. It depends from many things, of course mostly how they will predict him to do next season. If they feel they can not trust him to do the job, it can get rough.) But after those things get cleared out (and unfortunately that can take even few months and till that we can't do anything but wait for their decision), summer training period will be much less pressured and calm time for difficult child.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 584105, member: 14557"] While difficult child's role shift went little farther than just coming home to be babied a bit (which of course is very common also in our culture) I think it is safe to say, it was about that. Coming to safe place to unwind and rest. Considering what happened it probably shouldn't be a surprise difficult child is having hard time letting his guard down enough to sleep in the bus or even in hotel room. These are of course totally different people, but pranks etc. are common and popular part of about any sport team's culture. And while they are not meant to hurt, they can be quite rough and with difficult child's background that is likely to be very triggering. Not only because this one incident but just all the years of being bullied in school and unpopular in his various sport groups. He has always been in the lowest part of any pecking order and had a rough end of the stick in this. And just because now he is in the environment with much stricter rules for pranks and he isn't being pranked isn't enough to make him feel safe now that memories of that one incident are so close to surface for him. I haven't heard from difficult child after he left, but I hoped that is a good sign. And at least he should have had quiet early week. His team is on the road and he is training with one trainer who was left home and maybe with some other injured guys (if they are up to train.) So emotionally and socially easier to difficult child. I do hope he can pull it together and get out from injured list. He will be very disappointed to himself if he can't. And to be honest they are not likely to go far in play-offs so season will not likely continue much longer. After that there will likely be some hard things to deal with (like difficult child's future, he is under contract, but we have no idea if his team is going to keep him or cut him off. It depends from many things, of course mostly how they will predict him to do next season. If they feel they can not trust him to do the job, it can get rough.) But after those things get cleared out (and unfortunately that can take even few months and till that we can't do anything but wait for their decision), summer training period will be much less pressured and calm time for difficult child. [/QUOTE]
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