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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 140511" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Very good questions totoro.</p><p> </p><p>I wish I had a few answers.</p><p> </p><p>I don't know how docs of any kind sift through the info to find the "right" diagnosis. This is why so many of us struggle to find the right diagnosis and, even more importantly, treatment that will work for our children, or selves, our other family members. </p><p> </p><p>Tdocs have tried to diagnosis Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) for my son because traumatic birth - they used hte vacuum thingy. NOT because he was in any distress, but because I was starting to be in distress. Or because he had ear infections. Mostly that was the end of our work, because most of these woudl not look at anything else as a diagnosis, reason why he behaved the way he did. Our very first psychiatrist, and the developmental pediatrician, both said Aspie, but higher functioning than most Aspies. </p><p> </p><p>Not sure why, or if, he is higher functioning. I am not sure how you make that call.</p><p> </p><p>For us, tough love, detachment came when it was clear we could continue to struggle to get supports and help for a child who was determined to destroy his siblings and me. I had to choose. Or none of us would have had a chance.</p><p> </p><p>So, we are ALL doing much better. But only because I MADE the choice. I still don't know if it was the best thing I could do, or the right thing. </p><p> </p><p>But it was the best I oculd do at the time, given what I had to work with. So it is OK.</p><p> </p><p>I hope you can find answers that give some measure of peace, and some guidance and insight into what you want to do on the rest of this journey with your girls.</p><p> </p><p>Hugs,</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 140511, member: 1233"] Very good questions totoro. I wish I had a few answers. I don't know how docs of any kind sift through the info to find the "right" diagnosis. This is why so many of us struggle to find the right diagnosis and, even more importantly, treatment that will work for our children, or selves, our other family members. Tdocs have tried to diagnosis Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) for my son because traumatic birth - they used hte vacuum thingy. NOT because he was in any distress, but because I was starting to be in distress. Or because he had ear infections. Mostly that was the end of our work, because most of these woudl not look at anything else as a diagnosis, reason why he behaved the way he did. Our very first psychiatrist, and the developmental pediatrician, both said Aspie, but higher functioning than most Aspies. Not sure why, or if, he is higher functioning. I am not sure how you make that call. For us, tough love, detachment came when it was clear we could continue to struggle to get supports and help for a child who was determined to destroy his siblings and me. I had to choose. Or none of us would have had a chance. So, we are ALL doing much better. But only because I MADE the choice. I still don't know if it was the best thing I could do, or the right thing. But it was the best I oculd do at the time, given what I had to work with. So it is OK. I hope you can find answers that give some measure of peace, and some guidance and insight into what you want to do on the rest of this journey with your girls. Hugs, [/QUOTE]
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