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<blockquote data-quote="totoro" data-source="post: 140575" data-attributes="member: 3155"><p>I don't know if I am frustrated or not? I am actually doing OK. I have a lot to look forward to with the move and hope for K. I think I am thinking of the future and possibilities? </p><p>I am also reading a book... The Mom is at the point where she has to pull back and help herself, help the rest of her family and by doing that she is able to truly help the child who is mentally ill. She realizes at one point that she can not stop her from taking her own life. She can only be there for her. </p><p>I think at times, if K is doing this now... how will she be in her teens? How can she get through this? husband and I are reading another book about positive discipline... it really gets into the birth order and empowering the child to help them do things on their own. Setting up rules and house guidelines, by letting the family make up the list... letting the kids have a say... but not too much. </p><p>But like last night she has a choice of 2 things, bath or reading in her bed. The bath was what she was supposed to do, so the reading in her bed was a lesser option. If she chose bath then we would have watched something together on tv after and then read and bed. It turned into almost 2 hours of falling apart... this is no engaging on my part... here is the options. You may chose one. </p><p>The thing is, is that she is a good kid... she wants to do well, it really upsets her to act like this. She was in her room sobbing, she has to leave, she has to die... for almost 2 hours. I end up having to hold her as she shakes and sobs saying she ruins everything. </p><p>How do I start to set guidelines with this??? Or do I put things on hold some more... and wait until she is stable??? And then none of this is fair to N... she had to sleep with me last night. </p><p></p><p>Just kind of thinking, you know? My Father is also trying to re-enter my life... which I am OK with. I have defenses built up. But I just worry about the girls. They don't need the B.S. I ask myself, do they need a Grandpa that bad??? </p><p>He seems like he has changed, no Heroin, no Coke... I honestly don't know if he is drinking. </p><p>Just kind of thinking about the future.</p><p>I am looking forward to the psychiatrist apt in a couple of weeks... she is destabilized. But is trying SO hard. It is such a no win situation at times. I want peace in the house, but can you have that when your child is not stable... </p><p>Who knows? I love those kids SO much and we have so much fun together... I just wish I could teach her to hold on to that also.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="totoro, post: 140575, member: 3155"] I don't know if I am frustrated or not? I am actually doing OK. I have a lot to look forward to with the move and hope for K. I think I am thinking of the future and possibilities? I am also reading a book... The Mom is at the point where she has to pull back and help herself, help the rest of her family and by doing that she is able to truly help the child who is mentally ill. She realizes at one point that she can not stop her from taking her own life. She can only be there for her. I think at times, if K is doing this now... how will she be in her teens? How can she get through this? husband and I are reading another book about positive discipline... it really gets into the birth order and empowering the child to help them do things on their own. Setting up rules and house guidelines, by letting the family make up the list... letting the kids have a say... but not too much. But like last night she has a choice of 2 things, bath or reading in her bed. The bath was what she was supposed to do, so the reading in her bed was a lesser option. If she chose bath then we would have watched something together on tv after and then read and bed. It turned into almost 2 hours of falling apart... this is no engaging on my part... here is the options. You may chose one. The thing is, is that she is a good kid... she wants to do well, it really upsets her to act like this. She was in her room sobbing, she has to leave, she has to die... for almost 2 hours. I end up having to hold her as she shakes and sobs saying she ruins everything. How do I start to set guidelines with this??? Or do I put things on hold some more... and wait until she is stable??? And then none of this is fair to N... she had to sleep with me last night. Just kind of thinking, you know? My Father is also trying to re-enter my life... which I am OK with. I have defenses built up. But I just worry about the girls. They don't need the B.S. I ask myself, do they need a Grandpa that bad??? He seems like he has changed, no Heroin, no Coke... I honestly don't know if he is drinking. Just kind of thinking about the future. I am looking forward to the psychiatrist apt in a couple of weeks... she is destabilized. But is trying SO hard. It is such a no win situation at times. I want peace in the house, but can you have that when your child is not stable... Who knows? I love those kids SO much and we have so much fun together... I just wish I could teach her to hold on to that also. [/QUOTE]
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