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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 142501" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>I just wanted to add my welcome, and to say that I have been there done that, right down to the "I'm tired".</p><p></p><p>Something to think about...Aspies often have a unique relationship with language. When my son says "I'm tired", what he means is "My brain is shorting out and you are asking me to do or say something that I'm not capable of doing right now, and I'm close to overload". Since he can't articulate all of that very well, and since overload is very draining for him (not to mention the rest of us), he has applied the word "tired". I wonder if your son is doing a similar thing when he says he's tired.</p><p></p><p>I agree with Meowbunny and BBK that asking Why is a recipe for disaster. It is difficult to answer the question, especially if your child is struggling with impulse control issues, and then the frustration mounts when they can't produce the answer you want. It usually doesn't end well.</p><p></p><p>With Asperger's syndrome, you often get a host of related issues, such as language processing problems, executive function problems, oppositional behaviour and defiance, etc. When your son is refusing to obey you, it might be that he <em>can't </em>do what you're asking him to do, rather than that he <em>won't </em>do it.</p><p></p><p>My husband compares this to asking someone in a wheelchair to run down to the corner and pick up the newspaper. Until you provide the right tools, there's no way it's going to happen. And even when the tools are in place, it's not going to be easy.</p><p></p><p>I'm glad that you found us. You'll get lots of support and ideas here.</p><p></p><p>Trinity</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 142501, member: 3907"] I just wanted to add my welcome, and to say that I have been there done that, right down to the "I'm tired". Something to think about...Aspies often have a unique relationship with language. When my son says "I'm tired", what he means is "My brain is shorting out and you are asking me to do or say something that I'm not capable of doing right now, and I'm close to overload". Since he can't articulate all of that very well, and since overload is very draining for him (not to mention the rest of us), he has applied the word "tired". I wonder if your son is doing a similar thing when he says he's tired. I agree with Meowbunny and BBK that asking Why is a recipe for disaster. It is difficult to answer the question, especially if your child is struggling with impulse control issues, and then the frustration mounts when they can't produce the answer you want. It usually doesn't end well. With Asperger's syndrome, you often get a host of related issues, such as language processing problems, executive function problems, oppositional behaviour and defiance, etc. When your son is refusing to obey you, it might be that he [I]can't [/I]do what you're asking him to do, rather than that he [I]won't [/I]do it. My husband compares this to asking someone in a wheelchair to run down to the corner and pick up the newspaper. Until you provide the right tools, there's no way it's going to happen. And even when the tools are in place, it's not going to be easy. I'm glad that you found us. You'll get lots of support and ideas here. Trinity [/QUOTE]
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