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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 499664" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>(((((hugs)))))</p><p></p><p>Buck is lying about everything. Period. That is rule number one. IF he moves in he will not move out. Period. If he stays he will use your address as his and then try to make you go to court to evict him.</p><p></p><p>Sit down and write out your health problems that have to be taken care of. Doctor visits, and the cost. psychiatrist visits and the cost. Therapist and the cost. medications by name and the cost.</p><p></p><p>Then sit and write out what Tony needs and how much it will cost.</p><p></p><p>Let him know that if he cannot take care of all of that plus bills then it would be IRRESPONSIBLE and WRONG to agree to take responsibility for Buck and his medical bills. List Bucks health problems and what his medications woudl cost where you live.</p><p></p><p>Then ask Tony why Van won't step up and take Buck in?</p><p></p><p>Why won't the next brother?</p><p>The sister?</p><p>The other brother?</p><p></p><p>CALL VAN and have him come and see Tony NOW. Tell him that Tony and you may split up over this. Can Tony afford to go get a place to live? What happens if you tell him he can't live in your home if Buck is there?</p><p></p><p>Let Tony know that ALL your hard won mental stability will be gone in under a month if he brings Buck there. WHY won't the other brothers take Buck in? The drugs are the reason. </p><p></p><p>What is the chance that Tony will go to alanon? Drag his ass there for a MONTH before he can bring ANYONE home to live. Tell him it is a meeting EVERY NIGHT for a month or no one lives with you. </p><p></p><p> Of course I cannot make decisions for you. My husband wouldn't try anything like this because he would be very afraid of what I would do to make HIM miserable. </p><p></p><p>If Buck's sobriety is so shaky that he cannot live by himself then he isn't really sober and needs to have support that is right there. It isn't close in your area, nor are the social services to take care of a 50yo man with decades of drug abuse to his body and mind. Do you know the name of the church? Why not call and tell them to go get him and help him? HEck, call the police in his area and say he is threatening to kill himself if he can't come live with you and Tony (because I bet he is saying if Tony won't come get him he should just go get a bunch of drugs and shoot up and die - I would be anything that he has tried this with Tony at some point) and he needs to be taken to the psychiatric hospital because there isn't one near you and you can't take care of him.</p><p></p><p>What does Billy think of all of this? Would he and Jamie have any luck talking sense into Tony? For all Tony gripes about Cory taking everything eh has, why does he wnat a not very long clean drug addict with decades of drug abusing mentality to overcome to live iwth you? </p><p></p><p>Whatever you do, whether something we have suggested or not, you have my total support. I wish I could help.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 499664, member: 1233"] (((((hugs))))) Buck is lying about everything. Period. That is rule number one. IF he moves in he will not move out. Period. If he stays he will use your address as his and then try to make you go to court to evict him. Sit down and write out your health problems that have to be taken care of. Doctor visits, and the cost. psychiatrist visits and the cost. Therapist and the cost. medications by name and the cost. Then sit and write out what Tony needs and how much it will cost. Let him know that if he cannot take care of all of that plus bills then it would be IRRESPONSIBLE and WRONG to agree to take responsibility for Buck and his medical bills. List Bucks health problems and what his medications woudl cost where you live. Then ask Tony why Van won't step up and take Buck in? Why won't the next brother? The sister? The other brother? CALL VAN and have him come and see Tony NOW. Tell him that Tony and you may split up over this. Can Tony afford to go get a place to live? What happens if you tell him he can't live in your home if Buck is there? Let Tony know that ALL your hard won mental stability will be gone in under a month if he brings Buck there. WHY won't the other brothers take Buck in? The drugs are the reason. What is the chance that Tony will go to alanon? Drag his ass there for a MONTH before he can bring ANYONE home to live. Tell him it is a meeting EVERY NIGHT for a month or no one lives with you. Of course I cannot make decisions for you. My husband wouldn't try anything like this because he would be very afraid of what I would do to make HIM miserable. If Buck's sobriety is so shaky that he cannot live by himself then he isn't really sober and needs to have support that is right there. It isn't close in your area, nor are the social services to take care of a 50yo man with decades of drug abuse to his body and mind. Do you know the name of the church? Why not call and tell them to go get him and help him? HEck, call the police in his area and say he is threatening to kill himself if he can't come live with you and Tony (because I bet he is saying if Tony won't come get him he should just go get a bunch of drugs and shoot up and die - I would be anything that he has tried this with Tony at some point) and he needs to be taken to the psychiatric hospital because there isn't one near you and you can't take care of him. What does Billy think of all of this? Would he and Jamie have any luck talking sense into Tony? For all Tony gripes about Cory taking everything eh has, why does he wnat a not very long clean drug addict with decades of drug abusing mentality to overcome to live iwth you? Whatever you do, whether something we have suggested or not, you have my total support. I wish I could help. [/QUOTE]
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