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<blockquote data-quote="JKF" data-source="post: 606881" data-attributes="member: 12470"><p>We don't have a garage. But the thing is Cedar - even if we did it's not a solution in our case. He could never live that close to us. We simply don't trust him after EVERYTHING that has happened. He has raged and destroyed our belongings and even threatened to kill me in the past. He does what he wants to do (still to this day!) and has stolen so many times from us and when confronted turns violent. We lived like that for <em><strong>years</strong></em> and I will never do it again! It took over every aspect of every single one of our lives - myself, husband and easy child suffered for years because of difficult child's issues. My easy child is finally doing well after a consistent structured family life, no at home difficult child drama, daily medication and weekly therapy. It has taken years to undo all of difficult child's influence on easy child. And that right there kills me to say because when I do I feel like I'm choosing easy child's well being over difficult child's. But that's soooo not the case! I have set up services and shelter for him again and again and again and each time he takes what he needs and leaves it behind without looking back. I have been there to bring him food, give him rides, help with laundry, give spending money, take him shopping, etc, etc, etc and never once has it been enough to keep him from going off the deep end. I feel so hopeless and defeated.</p><p></p><p>Do I feel like the worst mother in the world because I won't allow him to live in our home? YES! I do. My heart hurts so bad today.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JKF, post: 606881, member: 12470"] We don't have a garage. But the thing is Cedar - even if we did it's not a solution in our case. He could never live that close to us. We simply don't trust him after EVERYTHING that has happened. He has raged and destroyed our belongings and even threatened to kill me in the past. He does what he wants to do (still to this day!) and has stolen so many times from us and when confronted turns violent. We lived like that for [I][B]years[/B][/I] and I will never do it again! It took over every aspect of every single one of our lives - myself, husband and easy child suffered for years because of difficult child's issues. My easy child is finally doing well after a consistent structured family life, no at home difficult child drama, daily medication and weekly therapy. It has taken years to undo all of difficult child's influence on easy child. And that right there kills me to say because when I do I feel like I'm choosing easy child's well being over difficult child's. But that's soooo not the case! I have set up services and shelter for him again and again and again and each time he takes what he needs and leaves it behind without looking back. I have been there to bring him food, give him rides, help with laundry, give spending money, take him shopping, etc, etc, etc and never once has it been enough to keep him from going off the deep end. I feel so hopeless and defeated. Do I feel like the worst mother in the world because I won't allow him to live in our home? YES! I do. My heart hurts so bad today. [/QUOTE]
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