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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 564873" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>PG, I've now listened to so many addicts in my own healing and underneath so much addiction is shame. Shame makes one feel unlovable, unworthy, undeserving, it's a deep rooted belief that colors everything and my understanding is that the alcohol, drugs, addiction of any kind, temporarily softens that. To think that you can be loved when you make a mistake is so difficult when the faulty thinking is that you ARE the mistake, rather then your actions are wrong, is a huge distinction very often missed by the addict. I've had to learn this with my own difficult child, her actions are often very disturbing, but she is ALWAYS deserving of love..................I always love her, but she has not always believed that. Yes, I think that your difficult child feeling ashamed is a healthy sign, but I imagine to her, it feels pretty devastating and hits that part of her that feels so unlovable............</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 564873, member: 13542"] PG, I've now listened to so many addicts in my own healing and underneath so much addiction is shame. Shame makes one feel unlovable, unworthy, undeserving, it's a deep rooted belief that colors everything and my understanding is that the alcohol, drugs, addiction of any kind, temporarily softens that. To think that you can be loved when you make a mistake is so difficult when the faulty thinking is that you ARE the mistake, rather then your actions are wrong, is a huge distinction very often missed by the addict. I've had to learn this with my own difficult child, her actions are often very disturbing, but she is ALWAYS deserving of love..................I always love her, but she has not always believed that. Yes, I think that your difficult child feeling ashamed is a healthy sign, but I imagine to her, it feels pretty devastating and hits that part of her that feels so unlovable............ [/QUOTE]
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