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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 338566" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Sounds to me like husband has missed the point of what this is for.</p><p></p><p>It's not a vacation. It's more a case of intense one-on-one time with just you and wee, working on wee's stuff. It's not a holiday at all.</p><p></p><p>Do you need to go so far? Is there someone close by you could stay with, who would give you the space you need without the hassle of a very long drive?</p><p></p><p>Alternatively, could husband & easy child go somewhere just the two of them, with husband maybe working intensively with easy child on her personal responsibilities and getting the backlog of overdue schoolwork done? Frankly, I think he needs to do this first because SHE has to learn to follow through, and he has to be the active parent on this to give you a break and to also get a good feel for how hard you work on this sometimes.</p><p></p><p>The best natural consequences for easy child, is to be made to do the work and hand it in, even if there's no chance of getting a mark for it. When difficult child 3 was in mainstream, he often didn't get work handed in and the teachers just left it; difficult child 3 learned, as a result, that if he procrastinated enough, he could get out of the work. But with correspondence now, he has learnt that he can't put it off, the work never goes away. Even now - he's had a years break from studying Electronics, and we met with the teacher today - he looked up how far difficult child 3 had got, looked at the last thing he handed in (back on 2008) and said, "OK, we'll begin here. He still needs to wire up this circuit, then he can pick up where he left off, at Chapter 10."</p><p>If difficult child 3 had completed Chapter 10 in 2008, then he would be beginning with Chapter 11. Or wherever he had got up to. So even after several years, work not previously completed has NOT gone away!</p><p></p><p>A wonderful lesson for him, and it has made him learn to keep working, and not to expect the work to vanish if ignored.</p><p></p><p>easy child needs the same insistence, and if the school isn't insisting, then it falls on you guys. It is the most effective natural consequence because it will teach her skills she can use for the rest of her life. Otherwise she will be using the skill of avoidance for the rest of her life.</p><p></p><p>See if you can sell that (or whatever variant on that that could work for you) to husband.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 338566, member: 1991"] Sounds to me like husband has missed the point of what this is for. It's not a vacation. It's more a case of intense one-on-one time with just you and wee, working on wee's stuff. It's not a holiday at all. Do you need to go so far? Is there someone close by you could stay with, who would give you the space you need without the hassle of a very long drive? Alternatively, could husband & easy child go somewhere just the two of them, with husband maybe working intensively with easy child on her personal responsibilities and getting the backlog of overdue schoolwork done? Frankly, I think he needs to do this first because SHE has to learn to follow through, and he has to be the active parent on this to give you a break and to also get a good feel for how hard you work on this sometimes. The best natural consequences for easy child, is to be made to do the work and hand it in, even if there's no chance of getting a mark for it. When difficult child 3 was in mainstream, he often didn't get work handed in and the teachers just left it; difficult child 3 learned, as a result, that if he procrastinated enough, he could get out of the work. But with correspondence now, he has learnt that he can't put it off, the work never goes away. Even now - he's had a years break from studying Electronics, and we met with the teacher today - he looked up how far difficult child 3 had got, looked at the last thing he handed in (back on 2008) and said, "OK, we'll begin here. He still needs to wire up this circuit, then he can pick up where he left off, at Chapter 10." If difficult child 3 had completed Chapter 10 in 2008, then he would be beginning with Chapter 11. Or wherever he had got up to. So even after several years, work not previously completed has NOT gone away! A wonderful lesson for him, and it has made him learn to keep working, and not to expect the work to vanish if ignored. easy child needs the same insistence, and if the school isn't insisting, then it falls on you guys. It is the most effective natural consequence because it will teach her skills she can use for the rest of her life. Otherwise she will be using the skill of avoidance for the rest of her life. See if you can sell that (or whatever variant on that that could work for you) to husband. Marg [/QUOTE]
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